The time order of events is also about the relative motion of the observer.
Remove the observer and the events can only have one order.
I have found a link that explains this in a very provable way! I took this in university about 3 years ago, and it is said over and over that this is not just an illusion. Nothing in that course made me realize that it is not just an illusion, for each observer, more than this link! It is a brilliant proof!
http://www.pitt.edu/~jdnorton/teach...7_Jan_1/Special_relativity_rel_sim/index.html
Normally we start with 2 postulates (I don't think they have this in the link): 1) light always travels at c 2) the laws of physics are the same for all inertial (nonaccelerating) observers/frames of reference.
If you scroll down to the second animation where the point of view is from the ground, you will see that the only way for the light on the far side to still travel at c and only cross a fraction of the distance that the other light had to travel is if the light came after the closer light!
Absolutely amazing!