The question is how. I don’t know the answer but having men tell girls and women to just get over it—when what women and girls are afraid of is violence at the hands of men! is more than a little rich.
The problem is that fear is not the same thing as risk.
We see no good evidence of actual risk.
We see the whole issue blowing up when the reich wing wanted a bogeyman. Previously it was working fine.
We see repeated objections based on things that aren't actually risks.
All in all it looks very much like the attempts to keep the colored out of the white bathrooms.
Fear is often created by memetics rather than biologicals, and can be broken with memetics just as much.
When someone's fear reactions cause unnecessary incompatibility with others, even if it is a common reaction, we expect them to get it under control.
Ten years ago, folks were acting like allowing this might some day be a risk and a decade later, the risk has not materialized.
The reality is this: trans people have always existed; trans people exist at such low rates that they will never be understood by many; enough people are afraid of what they don't understand to cede control to those who promise to make the world "simple" again.
This has been done several times in history from ancient Rome, to Nazi Germany, to America today. It has a force like a loader, loading a shell into a cannot that is targeted at immigrants, religious minorities, and non-reproductive members in general.
It is a very painful thing to admit that the grandest of human intuitions, the intuition of SEX, the thing that we all seem to have built our religion and behaviors and species around, is not simple as we imagined, and this is a powerful force to draw people towards selfishness over reason. They don't want to accept the pain of this admission, forever, that their deepest beliefs, beliefs they allowed to shape them, are wrong.
I imagine that this is the source of a grand tantrum, and this tantrum is a sort of fuel for Nazi-MAGA, a call for allegiance to the cage people accepted because of a sunk cost, a belief that if they do not defend the cage they are trapped in, allowing it to trap them would have been for nothing.
They don't realize that it is still trapping them and has been and will be worse than if they did not, this cage of the Reproductive State.
I think there is so much more psychology and force behind this issue than we are mostly willing to admit.
What do you do about tens of millions of vocal folks whose only "cope" for the denial of their reproductive agency is that nobody else had agency there either?
Of course they hate planned parenthood and trans people and abortion because these things don't maintain the lie that kept them small and/or poor and/or barefoot in kitchens.