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Hypothetical for the most part:
I truly don't mind helping her out, and if she shares what I give her with others, I'm even okay with that to a certain extent, but if she is excessive with her sharing, then although I still don't mind helping her out, and although I can be tolerant of minimal sharing, I don't want to fit the bill for another's excessive philanthropy, giving, or sharing.
I'm not (or at least I don't want to be) a control freak, and although some people may be of the opinion that it's an all or none proposition, others find the idea of limits or stipulations acceptable. Perhaps people are of mixed opinion depending on what we're talking about, or maybe they deal with it entirely different.
Just to expound on that last paragraph, there are those that firmly believe that if you give someone something, then they ought to be able to do with what they are given as they please, and they may say that if I don't like what they are doing with it, then I can refrain from giving at all--hence the all or none proposition. On the other hand, stipulations on gifts isn't unheard of, and some are quite content on directed giving.
What's the right way to handle such things, and if it depends, or contingent on something in some way, please elaborate. If it's not a matter of right or wrong, then let us know. Any thoughts on the subject (or something somewhat close to the subject) is welcome.
I truly don't mind helping her out, and if she shares what I give her with others, I'm even okay with that to a certain extent, but if she is excessive with her sharing, then although I still don't mind helping her out, and although I can be tolerant of minimal sharing, I don't want to fit the bill for another's excessive philanthropy, giving, or sharing.
I'm not (or at least I don't want to be) a control freak, and although some people may be of the opinion that it's an all or none proposition, others find the idea of limits or stipulations acceptable. Perhaps people are of mixed opinion depending on what we're talking about, or maybe they deal with it entirely different.
Just to expound on that last paragraph, there are those that firmly believe that if you give someone something, then they ought to be able to do with what they are given as they please, and they may say that if I don't like what they are doing with it, then I can refrain from giving at all--hence the all or none proposition. On the other hand, stipulations on gifts isn't unheard of, and some are quite content on directed giving.
What's the right way to handle such things, and if it depends, or contingent on something in some way, please elaborate. If it's not a matter of right or wrong, then let us know. Any thoughts on the subject (or something somewhat close to the subject) is welcome.