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Trump - Alleged Poor Empathy

I thought it would be a further challenge to use his naturally shitty speaking ability, add empathy, and still make the statement a much better one.

Challenge accepted!

"Mrs. Whateveryourname is, I am calling to let you know that nobody feels your pain like I do. I feel it bigly. Nobody has ever felt the pain I feel, and this call is so hard for me. Previous Presidents never felt pain like I do, and I get no credit for it. I feel the greatest pain. So I needed to tell you it was Rex's fault for getting into that fight with Chad which made me have to put them on the travel ban list, which made them stop patrolling the area where your guy got rubbed out. They're really bad people who did that, and if it wasn't for Obama I would have prevented it. Enjoy!"

How'd I do?
 
I thought it would be a further challenge to use his naturally shitty speaking ability, add empathy, and still make the statement a much better one.

Challenge accepted!

"Mrs. Whateveryourname is, I am calling to let you know that nobody feels your pain like I do. I feel it bigly. Nobody has ever felt the pain I feel, and this call is so hard for me. Previous Presidents never felt pain like I do, and I get no credit for it. I feel the greatest pain. So I needed to tell you it was Rex's fault for getting into that fight with Chad which made me have to put them on the travel ban list, which made them stop patrolling the area where your guy got rubbed out. They're really bad people who did that, and if it wasn't for Obama I would have prevented it. Enjoy!"

How'd I do?

How dare you answer my test, when it was not explicitly directed at you! That is the most egregious form of behavior in a public forum, and I am reporting you to the Internet Police forthwith.

Other than that, you did a terrible job. That statement is actually worse than the original, as it is completely narcissistic. I might even think you were deliberately attempting to fail the challenge.
 
Challenge accepted!

"Mrs. Whateveryourname is, I am calling to let you know that nobody feels your pain like I do. I feel it bigly. Nobody has ever felt the pain I feel, and this call is so hard for me. Previous Presidents never felt pain like I do, and I get no credit for it. I feel the greatest pain. So I needed to tell you it was Rex's fault for getting into that fight with Chad which made me have to put them on the travel ban list, which made them stop patrolling the area where your guy got rubbed out. They're really bad people who did that, and if it wasn't for Obama I would have prevented it. Enjoy!"

How'd I do?

How dare you answer my test, when it was not explicitly directed at you! That is the most egregious form of behavior in a public forum, and I am reporting you to the Internet Police forthwith.

Other than that, you did a terrible job. That statement is actually worse than the original, as it is completely narcissistic. I might even think you were deliberately attempting to fail the challenge.

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Reminds me of the form condolence letters from Catch-22:

Dear Mr., Mrs., Miss, or Mr. and Mrs.,

Words cannot express the deep personal grief I felt when your husband, son, father or brother was killed, wounded, or reported missing in action.
 
When you said the following:
And that's when the mother quickly snaps back

It was my illustration to show a point that people seemed to have missed.

No. It shows that you are missing the point of the thread
As an independent thinker, I expect to be criticized for my thoughts, and I even don't mind being criticized either, but I would prefer, and others should also, that I be criticized for what I actually say, and not for what others misunderstand and/or misrepresent.

I can't criticize your thoughts, because I don't know them.
Right, so you attacked a straw man instead. When you don't know, then ask, hence why I asked the OP, and not anybody else, for an explanation of his assertion.
What I did was criticize what you typed in your posts, what you actually said.
Again, no, you assumed, as I already said above, which you again haven't really read through and understood, or else you would not have made this redundant statement.
Your post chose not to engage my post on whether or not it met the challenge of showing empathy in a statement,
Yet I did, even though my question was clearly not addressed to you. Another redundancy.
but rather on the basis of whether or not a sufficiently motivated person could come up with a snappy retort to that statement.
Again, no, for that wasn't its purpose if you bothered to read between the words of the illustrated response and further explanations from me afterward. Redundant once more.
I don't know what you were thinking when you did that, but I can tell that it bore no relation to the question you initially asked.
Of course it did, since it would have shown why the OP was wrong, if it actually was the OP's answer, and not yours.
Thus, it seems to me to be a case of moving the goalposts.
As you once again assume.

KeepTalking said:
even though you seemed to get it when you asked the following:
Okay, how do you think a person described here would say the same thing, yet completely differently?
Yes, and that test has now been mostly ruined by it not being demonstrated by the OP, which of course the OP is under no obligation to answer anyway, even though it was his original assertion.

This is an open forum
Who said that it wasn't? Yet if you want consistency, it would help to understand and/or follow what happens before.
as such anyone can answer a question posted by another user.
See others above.
I don't see how your question can be ruined just because someone else other than the OP answered it.
I said mostly, not completely ruined. One reason, is because it obviously has been responded to by others, so it isn't quite the surprise and challenge it was meant to be, and its actual purpose is partly exposed and corrupted by others' answers.
If that is the way you approach all conversations on this forum, you are going to find that your "tests" will nearly always be ruined.
My tests have many ranges, and most of the time, I will not say ahead of time or afterward that there was even a test involved.

I provided an example of how that might be done.
Ah, with "bigly?"
Yes, that is how our current president speaks. I know it is a fucking terrible example of how the most powerful man in the world should speak in public, but that is what this imbecile does on a regular basis.
How he speaks in this aspect is just grammar, akin to what the Democrats did attack Bush with, and Bush still won reelection. Trump is far from even a hyperbolic imbecile.

The OP opined that a person with better speaking ability, and empathy would be able to say the same thing, only differently and have it be empathetic. You challenged him on this. I thought it would be a further challenge to use his naturally shitty speaking ability, add empathy, and still make the statement a much better one.
I pointed to it, but I didn't really care about the grammar, since I caught the disrespect in the first sentence.

Again, this is hardly displayed as taking the task seriously, especially when my question wasn't to you, but I played along anyway.
Not only did I take it seriously, I deliberately made it a harder challenge. You did not play along.
Obviously I did as I said, since I responded to your example, instead of dismissing it outright. What I left of it was exactly enough for an answer.
Playing along would have been to engage my post on the criteria you originally set forth. You chose, instead, to move the goalposts.
Again, no, and especially because I didn't show the whole goal in the first place, since I didn't reveal yet, and still haven't entirely, the exact purpose of my test.

Rather than commenting on whether or not that was a good example of a person saying the same thing with empathy, you took it as a challenge as to whether or not a snappy comeback could be made in response.
No, you didn't really ask why I wrote it out that way, or read/understood what I also wrote to others on this response of mine, you merely assumed, as others did. That is yet another straw man.
You are incorrect. Your post obviously did not engage mine on the criteria of the question asked, and instead engaged it based on an entirely different criteria. That is the definition of goalpost shifting.
See above.

I asked the OP the question.

If the future, if you would like to present a question to only one user, it would behoove you to send that user a DM, and not place that question in a public portion of this message board, where others will take it as in invitation to also answer that question.
Because it is meant to be seen and questioned by others, obviously. As I said above, the OP made the original assertion, not you, so naturally when I ask the OP a question about one's own assertion, it would seem quite clear that others can't normally answer for someone else if they don't really know.

If you wanted to answer more properly, then you should have asked the OP first what this honestly means to him, as I already did, then once you know, try to formulate a response out of that new found knowledge.
No I shouldn't have. I know what it means to make a statement with empathy, I don't need Jimmy Higgins to tell me that.
Well, I showed why it wasn't a statement of empathy, and you either ignored it or disagreed with it, but you can't force your version of empathy onto someone else, or it is obviously not empathy anymore.
I learned how to empathize with others long before I joined this message board and became acquainted with either you, or Jimmy Higgins, and I am perfectly capable of presenting my own thoughts in relation to questions of how empathy can be used when speaking, even by a moron like our current president.
See above.

You then proceeded to move the goalposts so that the answers no longer met your criteria.
Again, these posts were already being moved by others' mere assumptions, and I was just trying to bring it back to its original position.
There was exactly one post between my response and yours, and that was another poster showing how Trump could have used empathy in his statement. Further, no one else posted between the time you asked your question, and the time I posted in response. There was no goal post movement until you responded to my post without regard to the criteria you set forth. This is plain for anyone to see by simply reading the first page of this thread. If you would like to now move the goalposts back to their original position, I suggest you start by engaging my original post using the original criteria contained in your original question.
See above.
 
Reminds me of the form condolence letters from Catch-22:

Dear Mr., Mrs., Miss, or Mr. and Mrs.,

Words cannot express the deep personal grief I felt when your husband, son, father or brother was killed, wounded, or reported missing in action.
Right, this person's own personal grief.
 
Poor empathy?

To have poor empathy would mean he has some empathy. I've seen no evidence of that.
 
I think what we need is some kind of new technological device where people like Kelly can put in the text of what the Donald needs to say. Then, the Donald needs to read and repeat it, much like a teleprompter with the exception that when he deviates from script, he gets a big ZAP. It is possible that through such Pavlovian mechanism he can be taught to be polite to other people, but even if not, it would still be worth it.

No not like Kelly, because he's a fuckup, hack too.

Yep.

I was initially Team Kelly in that speech... almost to the point of almost feeling a tiny bit sorry for Trump... but then Kelly had to prove he is as big a liar as his boss
 
I don't think the military has any respect at all for him, beyond being sworn to obey orders and be respectful of superiors. He has nothing to draw upon for these engagements and is completely out of his element.... and his condolences wrapped in ignorance and lack of empathy is without value to anyone.
Sadly, the military is SO full up on being on the Right, they do respect what they THINK he stands for, what they THINK they hear him saying. They also listened to the right for the last 8 years about how horrible Obama was, and for the last 50 years about how horrible the Dems are, for the military, for guns, for security, etc.
So all he really has to do for the average guy in uniform is not take their guns, promise to bomb the shit out of anyone who fucks with the USA, and return the Marine salutes while walking to the helo to go fly to a golf course. And not be Hillary.

It would be really nice if he could maybe once admit to being in error, 'but we're going to fix that' rather than to reflexively lie 'At least I'm doing better than any of the other guys! And the check's in the mail!' But it works just as well for the military to say 'bomb' two or three times.
 
So apparently Sharon45's contribution to the thread was that it doesn't matter what Trump says or how much empathy he displays when offering condolences to grieving family members because grieving family members are bound to be inconsolable.

But instead of simply saying that in his own words he decided to conduct a condescending "test" to fish out whether the OP is capable of coming to that conclusion on his own. Though, as to why Sharon thought that was going to be a productive form of communication and wouldn't devolve into the voluminous amount of confusion and bickering that it obviously has devolved into (and inevitably would) is beyond me.
 
So apparently Sharon45's contribution to the thread was that it doesn't matter what Trump says or how much empathy he displays when offering condolences to grieving family members because grieving family members are bound to be inconsolable.

But instead of simply saying that in his own words he decided to conduct a condescending "test" to fish out whether the OP is capable of coming to that conclusion on his own. Though, as to why Sharon thought that was going to be a productive form of communication and wouldn't devolve into the voluminous amount of confusion and bickering that it obviously has devolved into (and inevitably would) is beyond me.
Probably because this is yet another straw man.
 
Probably because this is yet another straw man.
I guarantee you that it is not a straw man, it was genuinely my attempt to figure out what you are trying to say here. But if I haven't deciphered your intentions in this thread, it isn't my fault. Perhaps you should express your opinions directly, openly and concisely, so that we can all finally understand you.

Or maybe you are incapable of recognizing the confusion your evasive responses have evoked or aren't charitable enough to alleviate our confusion without an explicit request to do so, so I will ask you directly.

Will you please explain the meaning of your comments in this thread in a concise, non-evasive way so that we can all be enlightened by your wisdom?
 
Probably because this is yet another straw man.
I guarantee you that it is not a straw man
And I guarantee that it is.
it was genuinely my attempt to figure out what you are trying to say here.
No, since then you would have asked some questions of me first, like I already said a few times in this thread. You can then more properly evaluate, once you have the facts right.
But if I haven't deciphered your intentions in this thread, it isn't my fault.
Of course it is, just accept personal responsibility.
Perhaps you should express your opinions directly, openly and concisely, so that we can all finally understand you.
That is what I was trying to do, but then instead of people normally asking why I did something a certain way, I was being falsely accused.

Or maybe you are incapable of recognizing the confusion your evasive responses have evoked or aren't charitable enough to alleviate our confusion without an explicit request to do so, so I will ask you directly.
I'm not about charity, since I want people to actually take part in learning. I wasn't being condescending, I was honest. I could have just said from the beginning that "Yeah, Trump makes another fool out of himself, big deal." and left it there, but I wanted to teach something.

General Kelly sloppily explained a couple of days ago in a press conference some of what I was getting at. I've known about this issue ever since I was nine years old when my father died of a heart attack. Obviously that isn't the same as one being killed in combat, but it was the first death that I have ever experienced, and it was in my own family. Now people naturally came by our house to show their so-called respects, but I knew that these people weren't around yesterday, and they weren't going to be around tomorrow either, so these were only self-serving condolences. About the same as when I went back to school, and kids who didn't normally like me and/or talk to me, were all of a sudden wanting to share their thoughts also. I realized that it was just faked empathy. Plus I didn't want it, even if it had been real, but as I pointed out way above, I was forced into being the good little mourner, to merely be polite to others, and reject my own feelings, even though I am the one in real pain here, not them. This is an extremely private agony that is constantly made public to a certain degree, and it shouldn't be. Anyone who was honestly close to my father would not have needed to give their condolences to me, because they would be hurting bad also, just like I wouldn't be expecting condolences from my other sisters, or me delivering condolences to them.

And this is about where the president comes in. I doubt Trump even knew this man and his family beforehand, let alone was very good friends with them. Yet he is forced into an obligated position, which is basically no better than the people I described above. Except he is clearly a polarizing political figure, so that could make it seem to some people like the school bully who just beat you up a few days ago, expressing his supposed condolences. It sort of rings a bit hollow, no matter how well-worded it may be. Especially when the bully goes on back to his normal behavior after giving you a few days rest. Which describes Trump once again. But of course I am not only blaming Trump, because every president has many people who do not like him.
 
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Thank you for providing a straightforward explanation of your opinion. But really, it shouldn't have taken this long and for us to jump through so many hurdles for you to do so.

You see, conducting enigmatic "tests" on people instead of offering no-nonsense dialogue IS condescending. And expecting your test subjects to ask you the right questions before you reveal the true meaning behind your oh so special and important lesson for them is also quite condescending.

Overall your communication style sucks which makes your efforts to "teach" a complete failure. Also consider that when you set yourself up as the "teacher" in this way you close off any chance of learning something yourself from your "students" which is a foolish choice unless you happen to believe that you already know everything there is to know, in which case, there is no point at all in trying to converse with you.

If you can pull yourself out of your condescending teacher mode for a moment you should consider contributing to these discussions as an equal instead of lecturing to them as a pedagogue. It is by far a more effective means of connecting to people and getting them to understand and accept your point of view.

... Or just continue pissing people off... your call.
 
I am second to none in my loathing for Donald. Also, I disagree with friends who say that it's a bore to complain about him anymore -- we can not afford to normalize his speech and behavior; he needs to be called out on every single lie and abnormal comment.
AND YET.....
I gotta say, when the consternation over "He knew what he was signing up for" began, I heard it on MSNBC, and I was taken aback for a minute. Because, in Donald's mind, it might have been the core nugget of a thought he wanted to convey about a fallen hero; i.e., 'He showed great bravery and outstanding devotion because he knew at the outset that he was taking on great danger.' In other words, in a better context, there's a thought there that may not be calloused and ignorant. But our president isn't empathetic at all and doesn't know how to pay respects -- so of course he botched it. It's not easy to speak to bereaved people, whose emotions are absolutely raw and vulnerable -- it's best to express your concern and sympathy in a few friendly words. A President has, or should have, a stockpile of official-sounding sentiments, that's just how it is. Trump is too dumb to know this (so he actually offers one father a bunch of money. What a shmuck.)
My point is, it would not necessarily be out of line or unfeeling to express to a grieving mother that her son took on great peril when he entered the service, and that the country honors him for it. Our narcissist-in-chief has no ear for the sensitive requirements of condolence.

I thought much the same thing.

However, between the tan suit, the terrorist fist bump, the coffee salute, etc., I have come to the pragmatic conclusion that whatever it takes to get someone to vote against the R's and Trump is, at least for the time being, legitimate.

In this case, Trump is just a lazy fuck who can't be bothered to memorize something written for him to say to a grieving widow. And the fuckhead got himself into this position by lying about how he writes and calls the families of dead soldiers. That lie was shat out of his cake hole due to him wanting to make himself look good and Obama look bad, which was the source of another fucking lie about Obama never calling or writing family members of dead soldiers.

Therefore, not giving Trump the benefit of the doubt here, and even mischaracterizing what the son of a whore said, it is well within the ever changing rules of the game that Trump and the GOP have established.
 
So apparently Sharon45's contribution to the thread was that it doesn't matter what Trump says or how much empathy he displays when offering condolences to grieving family members because grieving family members are bound to be inconsolable.

But instead of simply saying that in his own words he decided to conduct a condescending "test" to fish out whether the OP is capable of coming to that conclusion on his own. Though, as to why Sharon thought that was going to be a productive form of communication and wouldn't devolve into the voluminous amount of confusion and bickering that it obviously has devolved into (and inevitably would) is beyond me.

The Ignore function does have a useful purpose. After putting forth good faith effort towards certain people here and getting lazy and incoherent shit lobbed back at me, I finally put them on ignore. I don't like to do that because it shuts out voices, but some voices are just yammering clowns whose shrieks drown out and distract from legitimate discussion.
 
"I know you must be hurting bigly..."
And that's when the mother quickly snaps back: "How dare you think you know anywhere near what I feel!" "Hey, did you even have to bury a son, let alone one who was killed in combat serving this country with a president as cold-hearted and arrogant as yourself?"

You know what this statement reminds me of? When I'd play on the playground with other kids and I'd shoot them with a laser and they'd go "No, I have a shield."
 
Tone is everything. With the right tone of voice, the right vocal inflections, and sincerity in a voice, the words purportedly uttered by Trump could be construed as kind and supportive.

It is possible that this is what Trump intended, and it is more than possible that he is being open and honest when he stated that this type of phone call was very difficult for him. It is for anyone, and for any president.

But in Trump's case, he has amply demonstrated his narcissism in countless ways. Case in point: droning on about how difficult these calls are for him, personally. Rather than say that these calls are among the most difficult any president will ever have to make. Which demonstrates his narcissism without even going on to his false assertions that most presidents don't make such calls.

I genuinely think it is far more than simply narcissism. I think that Trump's mental capacities are declining and stretched very thin. Why do I think this? I've listened to recordings of him speaking 20-30 years ago. I didn't like him more then than I do now, and disagreed with him profoundly, but he didn't sound incompetent. Today, listening to the man speak, it is impossible to miss the flat emotional affect that was not present 30 years ago, the body language, the fact that he seems to get lost in his prepared speech, that his going off script is not so much a choice as it is a function of him not being able to remember what he had intended/was directed to say, and the fact that he has, on multiple occasions, wandered off during a document signing event--without actually signing the document that press was called to witness being signed. This is not someone with his full faculties or in good command of those he still possesses.

I think his emotional stability is...not very stable. I genuinely think that there is some sort of dementia going on, and that while this is extremely dangerous, it is not nearly as dangerous as a Congress and political party which is willing to overlook such obvious intellectual impairments in order to use his explosive and (in my mind) deliberately chosen and totally fake controversies as covers for passing an agenda that would --or at least should--arouse an outcry for the destruction to environment, education, and health insurance of this country, not to mention that he has us skirting along the razor's edge of nuclear war.
 
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