You said that current Finnish Family Law contains conservative, traditionalist policies that are essentially patriarchal.
I would not have said that. I would have said conservative and traditionalist, but I would not have agreed they were 'the patriarchy'.
Not only did I not say you cited patriarchy 'as feminists conceive of it', but I did not say 'the patriarchy', only patriarchy.
Many of the structures that feminists claim exist do exist, but not for the reasons they claim.
So......does that include patriarchy, or not? Because
'not existing' and
'existing, but not for claimed reasons' are obviously two different things.
I don't recall you adding these qualifiers before. Perhaps, in the past, you meant
'the patriarchy does not exist as conceived of by feminists or for the reasons they claim'.
If so, that's good to know, and in many ways I might largely agree with you (albeit without perhaps being as irked about it as you).
But does that not open the way to saying something like,
'patriarchy was, and still is to some degree depending on location, a social phenomenon/structure and an issue, but Feminism, by and large, and especially in modern, western contexts, overstates and oversimplifies it to the point that it skews the matter'?
In other words, can you concede to Feminism that they are addressing a real thing, but just doing it ...'badly'?
I think a lot of people could agree with that. Others (including many feminists perhaps) might disagree. And a heated debate might follow. But I think it'd at least be a debate between two valid points of view.
As for DiAngelo specifically, I tend to agree with you. This does not, on the face of it, seem impressive. I'd say she currently has potential egg on her face. How much it might bother her, I don't know. Little reputational potholes like this can be gotten out of. And she has already done very well financially from her book, so that money is in the bank.
I would just add one thing. If (if) the difference in speaking fees here is normal, ie reflects a not unusual difference between two keynote speakers when one is simply more famous (and as often therefore more expensive) than the other, then it may not have anything to do with race at all.
ETA: Ok I was not familiar, but have just checked. Apparently Austin Channing Brown is also a bestselling author.