Apologetics??????
I'm not here for bullshit either.
What the fuck do you mean by this:
I'm pretty sure that I said that all of America was racist AF then and it's not much better now.
Do I think that all confederate leadership should have been punished more than they were? OF COURSE I DO. We sure as shit should never have allowed monuments and statues to be erected in their honor/memory nor the southern ideals of slavery held in some sort of glorified nostalgia.
Do I have a time machine where I can go back and imprison Jeff Davis and all of his ilk? Nope. I sure don't.
Do I think that among the many reasons that the US Government failed to try for treason the Confederate leaders, convict them and imprison them and perhaps execute them was racism? I'm sure that was some of the reasons. The rest were pragmatic--if the United part of the United States was to hold, we had to find some ways to make some peace with them, to recognize them as the brothers they were. Or else why bother stopping them from succeeding?
Do I think they did enough to punish the Confederates? Nope. I don't.
Was I alive to change it? Nope. I wasn't.
And I still do not have a time machine to change history.
The best I can do is to do my best to advocate for equal rights, restitution, treating each other like equals for real.
I'm stating facts. Whether or not you have a time machine is irrelevant. Knowing what happened in the past (and not the white-washed one) should help not hinder any efforts to both understand the issues & work towards making things better in the future. Talking about those confederate-loving fucks as if they are brothers and sisters is not in alignment with what they were/are. Well then again, if black people still aren't considered brothers and sisters to America it would make sense. Because there is no flying fucking way we're seeing confederate-lovers as our brothers and sisters.
You probably have a different kind of family than I do. I really like to pretend that the worst racists and worst fuck ups are related to me by marriage and not genetically but that would include ignoring some unpleasant facts. I stand by my opinion that the worst of the racists in my personal family are not genetically related to me--but they are still family. That does not mean that some of my genetically linked family members are not racist fucks. Unfortunately, we have some of those too.
I have a bunch of racists in my family who are not people I call brother or sister but who I have to claim as cousin, or refer to as my step cousins or my father's step children from (pick a marriage) or my grandmother's third husband who was a member of the Klan (dead now for over 50 years). I cannot forget that these are my family, no matter how despicable I find some of their attitudes about race, among other issues. Some of them have some other pretty despicable beliefs, and actions but let's just keep it to race. I don't like that at all. For some, I simply do not have any kind of relationship with them and haven't since I reached adulthood and had a choice.
But there are other people I grew up with, none of whom would count themselves as racist (even my Klan grandfather didn't think he was a racist) who are otherwise pretty decent human beings--they work hard, and would do just about anything for anyone. But probably more so if the person in need was also white and American born.. And preferably, grew up in the same county.
I think we are fooling ourselves if we do not recognize that most white people have some work to do regarding how we treat other people who may not look like us or speak the same language or with the same accent. And the more the other people don't look like us, the more we don't treat them like us.
And we need to. We need to treat everyone like us. Like our brothers and sisters.
That doesn't mean that we have to like them or want to invite them in our houses. It definitely does not mean that we do not charge them with crimes they have committed, and if found guilty, impose the appropriate sentence. It doesn't mean we have to agree with them or talk to them. But if we don't talk with them--not to, but with, we will never get them to change their minds. And if you haven't noticed: they ain't dying out so we can't count on that.