And now I have a question for
you.
Do you have any sort of issue with that (#2)? See also: Gillette ad, above.
No, of course not. I said something similar myself
earlier in the thread. I also posted my views on
what young men should learn, about a year ago.
That's the first time I've seen the Gillette ad. It's exactly the type of thing I believe in: stepping in, looking after others. Any room should be safer simply because you're in it. It doesn't hinge on vengeful violence. It just requires the resolve to make someone else's problem our problem; to stick our necks out rather than keep our heads down.
Gotcha. Well said. I agree.
I confess I don't do it very often, the stuff in the ad. Mainly because I don't see anything to intervene on very often (I actually do believe here is different from, for example, the USA, or what I perceive of the USA via the media, and also, I don't get out as much as I used to now that I am older and domesticated, I probably associate with like-minded people, in certain types of places, etc) but I will, sometimes, non-aggressively, say something if I do see it. I could be missing it of course. It depends what exactly it is though.
Then there's the personal safety consideration. A man intervening can not unreasonably fear for his own safety, since the sort of man, who may also be drunk, who is likely to warrant an intervention, is also the sort of man, often anyway, who will react aggressively to being intervened on, perhaps especially by another man, another male negatively judging him, making a challenge. And I'm useless in a fight. In that hypothetical case, I'd do something nonetheless. Just be there and be seen to be there. And/or report it. Intervene if it becomes a serious physical assault. Or help others (good not to be the only intervener).
I am sure there are some, perhaps even one or two women here, maybe men too for all I know, who think the sort of thing I'm talking about here is not doing enough. I respect that. That's cool. People will always disagree about where exactly the line is.
Would I actually step in on a guy (as in the ad) who goes after a pretty woman in the street? That depends. I'm not sure I would. Perhaps, if it's as obvious as it was in that scene that he was literally 'going after her' with his eyes popping out. But in other situations, it might not be so clear. If I saw something 'like' that, I might, assuming I had the time, watch for a bit, to see what happened, and possibly intervene. But maybe the woman will tell him to fuck off, or handle it effectively in some way, and I might be seen as a Patronising White Knight if I step in before she exercises her agency. How do I know the woman even wants me to 'look after her'? It's not my job to be a social vigilante, necessarily. If that sounds controversial, I'll take the hit on that.