A.G. in Scranton, PA, asks: As a veteran who has lost family, friends, acquaintances, and strangers who were my brothers and sisters in arms to war, I take issue with the greeting "Happy Memorial Day," but get nothing other than quizzical looks and some pushback when I tell people that wishing others to be "happy" on a day set aside to reflect upon the sacrifices of those in the armed forces is not appropriate. We are to remember our war dead on Memorial Day. What is there to be "happy" about?
However, I struggle with what I should say to people in its stead. I have settled upon "have a reflective weekend when remembering those who gave their lives for us" or "have a solemn day of remembrance," but neither of those options is anything other than both far too wordy and a borderline form of mini-lecture.
Was there ever, when the day was set aside, a proper term proposed for what it is an American should be (in terms of the emotion used when bidding another their wishes for the day's emotive experience) on this day?
Damn, that was so hard to write in a way that didn't sound like I was trying to make it wordy and complex.
(V) & (Z) answer: For our post on Memorial Day, we wrote "Happy Memorial Day," and we did so for two reasons. First, we checked various etiquette-focused sites, and found that they approved of that formulation. Second, we thought of our relatives who are covered by the holiday, and knew they would want to be remembered warmly. Think Irish wake.
After we went live, we got some e-mails of complaint, so we changed it to "Have a good Memorial Day." Maybe that's better, maybe it's not.