Those who want to donate can and those who do not don't have to.
You're shooting your argument in the foot. You claimed they can't *afford* it. Clearly they can; so now you're shifting the argument to how people should not be made to; which is a wonderfully sociopathic argument to make, really, given it's not like Italy would have any particular difficulty scrounging up the money.
Btw, I just noticed another of your claimed numbers that is wildly inaccurate. You claimed they're getting "just" 34.60 euros a day, plus lunch. My eyes glazed over reading that the first time, but now that I take a second look, that really is an absurd number. No, *of course* the refugees aren't getting 34 euros a day to spend. They could live a week off that even up here (and I'm guess Italy is cheaper). The refugees in Italy are *actually* getting only 3 euros a day to spend as they see fit. You probably confused the estimated total cost with the amount of money that's actually directly put into their hands. Which is either incredibly dishonest if intentional, or yet another example of your paranoia making you jump to conclusions. Now then, it's true that it is estimated to cost around 35 euros a day for the Italian government; that includes the cost of just about everything, from constructing the asylum centers, to training, personnel salaries, etc etc etc. So while it costs the government 35 euros a day, it is not a *loss* of 35 euros a day for the Italian economy, as most of that money goes directly to Italian companies and workers, and most of the money that goes to the asylum seekers is actually put back into the Italian economy as well via the things they buy.
Anyway, total cost for the government adds up to around 13,000 euros a year. Italy had 15,300 asylum applications in the first quarter of 2015. Let's assume for the sake of argument that all of them are taken in. Let's also assume, again for the sake of argument, the exact same number comes in every quarter. Total cost for the Italian government? A little over 1 billion euros. And that's assuming all of the refugees actually stay for the full duration of the year and avail themselves of everything the government does for them, which is a rather big if.
Still, sounds like a lot, doesn't it? A billion euros! Except, Italy has a GDP of 2,2 trillion euros; and a government budget of around 1,1 trillion euros. Suddenly, a billion euros more or less doesn't seem like a big deal, does it? And again, keep in mind that that billion is not actually a net loss of a billion euros, for either the Italian economy or the government (which will get a good percentage of that back in taxes anyway)
So, can we agree to stop pretending like they can't afford it?