The larger cultural indoctrination has to change. That means music, TV, and movies. Not going to happen any time soon.
That's a good point. I used to enjoy watching porn with my husband many years ago. It was nothing like what I've been told about a lot of porn that young people watch these days. I've read articles about how contemporary porn has negatively influenced boys who are starting to date. I know that porn produced by females is very different than porn produced by males, but from what I've read, that's not the porn that boys are viewing.
And, music, unless hip hop has changed in the last few years or so, also often objectifies and even sometimes uses language that brutalizes women, so that certainly can have a very negative influence on young people. Boys might think that women are there for their pleasure and young girls might believe that they are supposed to do whatever a young man tells them to do.
I honestly think that as long as a parent is loving and nurturing, it's not necessary to worry about getting consent from very young children to do basic things. You should always be kind and gentle when caring for young children, but the parent is the one that needs to be in control. What do you do if your child is filthy and refuses to bathe? A parent needs to be the one who makes the rules and insists that the child bathe. Infants don't have enough brains that are mature enough to even understand the concept of consent.
I think that the best time for discussing consent and sexual behavior is around a child reaches puberty. Most children aren't even going to remember much about their first few years of life. My son, who will be 48 this week, told me yesterday, that he doesn't remember a thing prior to the age of five.
I do not watch porn any more. I came to see most of it representing abuse in different forms. Old guys forcing oral sex on young girls and the like. Mostly about male power and female subservience.
I bwelive in a healthy sexual culture porn would ;argely be irrelevant.
In rehab I have been watching a lot of old movies on TCM. from an older experienced perspective. Misogyny jumps right out. A lot of mild physical abuse, a woman gets slapped for speaking out and she just accepts it as a norm.
In the 50s 60s I had no sex education, and when I got older I found out I was not alone. In the 70s sex was easy to find and was good, but I had no clue what a relationship was. It was all about sex. A girlfriend said to ne let;'s get out of the bedroom, and it went right over my head.
A quick look around this forum is enough to see that if the world had the healthy sexual culture of a Swedish Nudist Camp, there would still relevant and thriving porn industry.