I'm using the only understanding possible.
Paying for all the things that make for a decent society is what taxes should be used for.
But paying your taxes in not giving any specific person something.
Yes, but the issue is that "decent society" is subjective. Some people may think a decent living (providing for a decent society) is that which is sufficient to not starve to death. yet others believe that daycare, iphones, internet access, higher education, and the ability to invest for future development is necessary for a "decent society".
My question to you is, "how many children of yours do you expect your community to aid?" Is a person entitled to 10x the entitlements as another, because they decide to have 10 children, versus none?