Jesus said that people can only divorce over infidelity. What about abuse? Most Christians say if one is abused then you should pray and forgive. Why would God throw you into Hell if you separate because you’ve been abused and maybe you forgive but don’t want to live with them. That’s kind of cruel.
Well, first I think there is the question of how does one consider the NT/Bible (even if one considers themselves Christian). Is it a literalists handbook? Secondly, whatever this Jesus person said, what we have is decades later written by anonymous authors.
In John 8:4, it doesn't quite sound like advise to kick her out of the church (at least in the future construct): “Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?”
6 They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. 7 They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” 8 Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust.
9 When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. 10 Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”
11 “No, Lord,” she said.
And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.”
Then there is Matt 5:29, who takes that literally?: If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell.
Well, maybe a couple dozen Christians live by this moto:
Matt 5:38-40: “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’[a] 39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well.
Considering the importance placed by Jesus on his 2 commandments and the insights from the above, I don't think one needs to play linguistic gymnastics to give a victim of spousal abuse a theological pass to dumping an abuser.