Toni
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Wearing a low cut sweater or a blouse opened a bit makes your neck look longer. Wearing a push up bra makes your breasts look larger, sure, but mostly perkier, and also, it makes your waist look smaller and in general, you look younger, thinner.
Women are socialized from a very early age to look young, thin, pretty
For the most part, women are into looking good by female standards: according to what their friends like and also to look as close as possible to the ads they see everywhere.
Young women and teenage girls (and sadly, younger) equate sexy with pretty. And being 'sexy' to them is not the same thing as wanting to have sex...with anyone. It's about wanting to be seen as pretty, attractive, desirable and may be very far removed from wanting to have sex with anyone at all, much less everyone.
A woman who dresses provocatively for a date with her man does so not only for his approval but also, at least subconsciously, because knowing that other men are finding her attractive boosts her man's ego at least as much as hers. I've had more than one friend whose husband or boyfriend wanted them to dress much more sexy than they were comfortable with when they went out to certain functions. As a side note: these men appeared controlling and possibly...bordering on abusive as well.
If a woman pulls her sweater over her breasts it may be that you have been staring at them, however unconsciously, or that she's been in the position of having men stare at her breasts and make her uncomfortable in the past. Or that she's cold. Or that she's just realized her shirt is more revealing than she intended. Or that she's signaling, however unconsciously, that she is not available sexually. Or as simple as she wants to ensure that there is no question that this encounter is purely business.
If you notice a lot of women covering their breasts when you are talking with them: it's you. Stop staring at their chests. Make the conscious effort to look them in the eyes or over their left ear but not below the chin.
Women are socialized from a very early age to look young, thin, pretty
For the most part, women are into looking good by female standards: according to what their friends like and also to look as close as possible to the ads they see everywhere.
Young women and teenage girls (and sadly, younger) equate sexy with pretty. And being 'sexy' to them is not the same thing as wanting to have sex...with anyone. It's about wanting to be seen as pretty, attractive, desirable and may be very far removed from wanting to have sex with anyone at all, much less everyone.
A woman who dresses provocatively for a date with her man does so not only for his approval but also, at least subconsciously, because knowing that other men are finding her attractive boosts her man's ego at least as much as hers. I've had more than one friend whose husband or boyfriend wanted them to dress much more sexy than they were comfortable with when they went out to certain functions. As a side note: these men appeared controlling and possibly...bordering on abusive as well.
If a woman pulls her sweater over her breasts it may be that you have been staring at them, however unconsciously, or that she's been in the position of having men stare at her breasts and make her uncomfortable in the past. Or that she's cold. Or that she's just realized her shirt is more revealing than she intended. Or that she's signaling, however unconsciously, that she is not available sexually. Or as simple as she wants to ensure that there is no question that this encounter is purely business.
If you notice a lot of women covering their breasts when you are talking with them: it's you. Stop staring at their chests. Make the conscious effort to look them in the eyes or over their left ear but not below the chin.