So I guess boys are free to do whatever they want, or do whatever they can
get away with.
I often see this in these types of discussions. We go from carefully considered consent to out of control promiscuous behavior in one fell swoop. Since the dawn of time teenagers have been having sex. They will continue to have sex. This is pure and simple reality; whether one thinks it is immoral or not is irrelevant to the fact that it happens and happens often. Christian, Jewish, non-religious, Muslim, etc. does not matter. So, one can either prepare for it, or one can bury their head in the sand and hope for the best.
Teenagers drive as well, and driving is dangerous, particularly for teens. Yet we allow them to drive despite the danger, and in our culture almost consider it a right of passage to do so. You can put them behind the wheel unprepared, or you can educate them to the possibilities and realities of a crash. You can teach them to wear a seat belt, and you can teach them the consequences of risky behavior behind the wheel, such as cell phone use and other forms of distracted driving. Just because we give permission for teens to drive does not automatically mean that teens will inevitably engage in irresponsible behavior while behind the wheel.
The statistics show that lack of education is the largest factor involved in teen pregnancy, std's and abortion among teens. The very groups that attempt these alternatives to actual education are consistently shown to be the largest groups for having these unwanted babies, catching std's or having an abortion.
The very idea of a purity ball is ludicrous. Not only is it definitely creepy, it's also easy to see how it could endanger a teen that is full of hormones that lacks good decision capabilities. The poor girl is "in love" and her body is raging. She wants to have sex, but because of this weird (even inappropriate) relationship with her father - doesn't want to let him down. If she has a question about sex, is she going to ask daddy? I think not. If she does want to use contraception is she going to ask mom or dad for help? I doubt it. If she does get pregnant, is she going to hide it for as long as possible because she fears the emotional and religious consequences? Probably, and this puts her and her baby at further risk of health and mental health problems. Some may even be able to get away with hiding it until the baby ends up in a dumpster shortly after birth. This is all in direct opposition to the very "right to life" ethics that religious people so often champion.
It is very difficult to fix anything without the proper tools, this goes for teens having sex as well as your washing machine.
