Maybe I'm way too logical about it, but this seems like one of those things that's not as complicated as it's made out to be. Just need to analyze and understand your situation:
- How much money do I have
- How do I want to spend my retirement
- What sacrifices am I willing to make
- What risks am I willing to take
And if you're someone who's in their twenties or early thirties.. now is the time to start planning.
Although, given my current situation things are looking pretty good for me, one thing a friend of mine said to me a few years ago really changed my perspective. She said something along the lines of that it's not a human right to be able to retire. Before that point I had never thought of it that way. I had always thought retirement was just something I needed and should do, and that it was imperative that I accomplish a good retirement. It's not that I don't want that, but it made me realize that a part of my desire was simply for social acceptance and conformity, and that there's no reason I can't just continue working as long as I'm able.
Your friend must be young and is certainly incorrect. The truth is that we all slow down a certain point in our lives. That point may vary a great deal, depending on health, for starters. Also family circumstances. Many people my age, for instance, find that their time is required to are for aging parents, grandchildren, a spouse whose health is not good, for starters. Often a combination of these. When I was still a teenager, my mother suffered a traumatic brain injury and was hospitalized for months, tecouperatong/rehabbing for months after that. I was the oldest kid still at home with younger siblings. I got a good preview of what is now called the sandwich generation, when in addition to your own life, you have children and an aging parent requiring your time and energy. So I had school, running the household, caring for younger siblings (who were also traumatized by circumstances) plus helping my mother rehab when she was home plus stuff with my dad, grandparents whose health was failing. I was an extremely energetic and capable teenager with all that teenage energy and it nearly broke me. Doing that in my 50-60's--even with better financial circumstances and much better care options: I have deep sympathy and admiration for anyone in such circumstances.
Your friend is frankly a clueless idiot who does not realize that more opportunities open for younger folk when older ones retire.
Human right may not be the right term. It was just more along the lines of a wealthy, golden years retirement is not something that's owed or a given for everyone. Maybe it is for you, I'm just making the point that when I realized there was nothing wrong with not being entirely wealthy when I retire, it took a lot of the pressure off.
A few years ago my parents lifestyle is how I set my standards for my life. When I dropped that the pressure receded a lot.