You still have not addressed my criticism that you extended the term "birth control" to include abortion,
Abortion is a form of birth control.
Why else would anyone do it?
If someone thought that they were gestating a kitten, or a Gucci handbag, there wouldn't be any elective abortion.
Lots of feticide is self defense. Medical issues that can't be addressed any other way. My mom would have died years before I was born had surgical treatment for her ectopic pregnancy been unavailable. I'm alive because of abortion.
Abortion was a form of birth control she desperately needed. But not all abortion is like that. Mine(ours) wasn't. We relied on really bad birth control methods, "rubbers when you need them, rhythm method the other two weeks a month".
Bad bad choice.
"Ya know what you call people who use the rhythm method?
Parents."
Tom
If I thought I was gestating a Gucci bag or a kitten, I hope my loved ones would seek out emergency mental health treatment for me immediately. If I were actually pregnant and believed I was gestating a kitten or a Gucci bag, I would hope the pregnancy would be terminated. I would obviously require medical /psychiatric treatment incompatible with gestating a pregnancy without causing grave harm to any fetus.
You never had an abortion. You could not possibly ever have or have had an abortion because you are cis male and have neither uterus nor ovaries, both of which are necessary to become pregnant.
Unless there is a different time you are referring to, your former girlfriend also did not have an abortion. You two thought she was pregnant, and you talked about having an abortion. But either she was not actually pregnant or she miscarried very early in a pregnancy.
Now, you may feel very guilty for being careless or even for being sexually active without being married. Or whatever closeted gay catholic boys feel guilty about. You may feel guilty because you talked about and maybe investigated and planned to procure an abortion—which, btw, would have required, at the very least, a positive pregnancy test.
But you did not have an abortion. And your girlfriend did not have an abortion.
Your mother’s abortion was not birth control. It was a necessary medical procedure to save her life. It was impossible for a baby to have resulted from that ectopic pregnancy.
There are many reasons girls and women seek abortions. Their reasons are their reasons and not my business. They may have been raped. They may be in an abusive situation. Their housing or employment or educational situation may be precarious. Or they may just not want to have a baby—at that time or maybe never. They may be reaching a different decision than I would but it’s not my decision. And it’s not yours either.