It may well be that we won’t be able to keep our democracy.
Eh, wouldn’t letting the states - the peoples’ representatives - decide a contentious moral issue be democracy?
No, it wouldn't.
Letting the people - the actual people themselves - decide a contentious issue would be democracy.
And in a representative democracy we do that through our elected representatives.
That's the theory. In practice elected representatives do not always create laws that represent the will of the vast majority of the people they represent.
This is happening right now in Texas and 12 other US states in regard to abortion.
Of course the majority is not always right
The tyranny of the 51%
Tyranny of the majority
Are you suggesting the tyranny of the minority is preferable?
Certainly not. It is always a balancing act. The majority is not always right and neither is the minority always right. If we ever work out how to balancing all those competing and sometimes contradictory wishes it will be wonderful.
Pregnancy is perhaps the most intimate and invasive thing a human being can go through. At its very least, it is an extraordinary sacrifice.
What?
I assume you mean this definition of sacrifice:
a
: destruction or surrender of something for the sake of something else
b
: something given up or lost
Women have given birth at least 30 billion times. Many women even plan and want to get pregnant. My own mother was overcome with joy when she first heard from the doctor confirming her first pregnancy. I what sense did she give up anything or lose something of value? She would not characterise it in any such way.
I loved and wanted each of my children, including the one that would have been born had I not suffered an early miscarriage, aka a spontaneous abortion.
Did I lose something of value while pregnant? Certainly I did. I lost a significant amount of sleep and comfort. I lost my tiny waistline. I lost a great deal of time that I would have used otherwise. I lost a number of opportunities. I lost a significant amount of personal freedom. I could have lost a great deal more but I was fortunate to have access to good medical care and my children were delivered safely.
Here's the thing: I CHOSE to continue my pregnancies. I had a CHOICE about whether or not to go through the joys of pregnancy and motherhood--or not. One of my pregnancies came at a particularly inconvenient time for me, personally. Continuing that pregnancy meant compromising my career and giving up on a career path I had wanted since I was a child. I chose to continue the pregnancy because I decided between the two CHOICES I had, I cared more about the child than I did about the career I had wanted. It is really hard to explain to someone who never faced such a CHOICE how the mere fact that I had that CHOICE made it easier for me to accept the consequences, without even a hint of regret. If I had had no CHOICE, I might have truly resented the child that resulted from that pregnancy instead of loving them dearly and unconditionally and without hesitation, more than my own life.
I am certain your mother is a wonderful woman who loved and appreciated each of her children, even in the less comfortable and convenient days of pregnancy, even during the labor, however long and painful that was, and through the sleepless nights, while her children were infants or were ill or were teenagers or adults struggling with some aspect of their life. I'm certain of it because indeed, that's how I feel about my own children.
That doesn't mean that she and I did not give up some things, even if the sacrifice was willing and even if she and i judge it to be very worthwhile.