DrZoidberg
Contributor
do you like if your wife watch porn?
That's the saddest sentence I've seen all week. Let's unpack this.
You are incredibly insecure. You feel in your heart that you are not good enough for your wife, so do you your best to shield her from any information that might reveal the truth to her.
Why do you feel you are not good enough for your wife? She married you. Isn't that proof enough that you are? What are you afraid of? Are you afraid your wife might reject you if she had the chance?
I have a very nerdy brother. Once he showed me the porn he was downloading. I asked him if his wife was into the same porn. He got red faced and said that he could never talk with her about that. I didn't say it, but I wondered why the hell he married her? If you can't talk to your wife about your sexual tastes then what have you got together? Being open and honest with your partner is what makes a relationship. And sex is at the core of what it means to be human.
I've always been 100% open and honest with all my girlfriends about what I like. I've watched porn together with all my girlfriends. To me it's extremely valuable. I learn things about them when I see the porn they like. I don't feel threatened. I just get happy that they get turned on. And we're all sexually weird in one way or another. Learning about your partners quirks is what makes the bond strong.
My ex wife once revealed she got turned on by transvestites. Not only. But it was a thing. I have no leanings that way. But one day I let her dress me up as a woman and do my make up. Just to make her happy. I didn't let her shave my beard off. So I was a bearded tranny. And it was great fun. Ultimately we didn't have sex that day. Probably because I wasn't into it enough. I certainly tried my best. I really took this seriously to make her happy. But she just couldn't stop laughing. Anyway... just a snapshot. I have fond memories of that whole day. Not because the dressing up as a woman. That really does nothing for me. But because she was so into it. We got a deeper emotional connection, and our bond was stronger after that. Which is what relationships are all about. So it's all good. We didn't do it again. But it was great.