I read that using a very broad definition of transgender, cross-dressers might arguably qualify for the term.
Which got me thinking, that one way for me (or any cis person) to gain clues about what it might feel a bit like to be a different gender (or be in the ‘wrong body’ or at least the ‘wrong outer cladding’) would be to dress up (and groom and make up) as the other gender, and possibly go about cross-dressed up in that way for an extended period of time.
It's worth a shot, but I am skeptical if that would give you any real idea of what it feels like to be a different gender, unless you can be quite convincing about it. If you can successfully pass, so that people treat you and interact with you as that gender, then you will have an idea of... how society treats that gender.
I suspect you'd have a lot of sympathy for women who hate high heels though. And bras. And pantyhose.
Sorry I missed this first time around. I referred to it afterwards without realising you had replied.
I agree with you that cross-dressing would give me at least some idea about gender roles, in the ways that you suggest. Regarding gender identity, I'm not sure. I had a gut feeling it might at least give me a small clue (because as a man, I would at least feel I was in the wrong 'coverings' or 'expressions', albeit they are not actual bodily expressions, they are a sort of extra, but non-biological skin, be it make-up, underwear or outer layers). It could not be the equivalent 'mismatch' to transgender, because there are no direct biological or neurological connections between my brain and the components of my cross-dressing, only psychological ones.
Like you I get confused about what the difference between 'wrong gender role' and 'wrong gender identity' would
feel like. Note that I'm not saying or asking what the difference
is (in, for example neurobiological terms). I'm (temporarily) not asking for two separate explanations, at this point. I'm assuming there are different underlying explanations. Krypton Iodine Sulphur touched on them.
My limited, specific question here, to try to untangle roles from identities (hey I'm sure they are interactive so I'm not looking for complete separation) is only, what is it that leads, let's say a young person, to feel that their body is the wrong one? I freely admit that I do not know enough about transgender and that that question might therefore seem dumb to someone who does.
You can see what I'm trying to untangle here. In the hypothetical complete absence of society, and thus gender roles, would such a young person still feel they were in the wrong body?
My guess is yes. I tend to assume transgender is usually at least partly inherent, or biological, or something one is born with (even if it does not express until a certain stage of development). With the caveat that there might be different types of transgender, obviously, and that some may have a different mix of factors than others. And that culture, learning and nurture may also often play a part.
But I would also guess that in the absence of social factors, the feeling of ‘wrongness’ would not be nearly as psychologically problematic, and I wonder if it would be psychologically problematic at all.