I actually don't think it's sarcastic, ironic, satirical or self contradictory. I want to be tolerated. I want to live in a country and a world where people are tolerated. Hitler and Stalin aren't tolerant leaders. Therefore invading them is justified. Being tolerant doesn't mean putting up with any shit. It means fighting for a society that is tolerant. If my tolerance leads me to tolerate something that makes the world less tolerant, then my tolerance is self defeating. So obviously that's not the type of tolerance I'm for.
It's fair to say that I'm militantly tolerant.
I think you are mistaking the terms tolerance and indifference. You complain about people having strong opinions and expressing them, both verbally and structurally.
You want people to tolerate bigotry. You aren't for it, but just that people should tolerate it, otherwise, we aren't tolerant.