Toni
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I think that the same thought processes and emotional mechanisms that drive racism also drive rape. At the core, there is a sense of entitlement, a belief that one person or one group is entitled to take/do what it wants and that the damage this behavior causes is really the fault of the victim for being the wrong color, the wrong religion, the wrong gender, the wrong nationality, dressed the wrong way, not properly submissive or subservient, not sufficiently respectful, not sober enough, in the wrong place or time, too drunk/drugged. In fact, the 'entitlement' of the 'superior' group isn't entitlement; it's a natural right, part of a natural order. Because everyone knows that s/he/they really wanted it, was looking for trouble, should have stayed in their place (at home, or wherever their grandparents were born).
A rapist tells himself or herself that what s/he is doing is really ok; that somehow the victim wanted/deserved it or that what the victim wanted didn't really matter, that the victim somehow failed to adhere to whatever rules and expectations with sufficient perfection and that this rape, which isn't really a rape because secretly, that victim must really want it or else they would be more compliant--isn't really a rape at all, isn't really wrong, is deserved by the victim, is somehow a natural right of the rapist. What red blooded male doesn't see a semi-to unconscious 13 year old covered in her own vomit and think: She wants me! I gotta get me some of that! An erection aroused must be satisfied, after all. And if you can get a few or a dozen or so of your buddies to join in, then so much more fun--plus it just proves how natural what you are doing really is. If the victim really deserved to be left alone s/he wouldn't be there in that condition, dressed that way, etc. The rapist has an absolute right to assert his/her power/wishes over the victim.
A racist tells himself/herself that the offending group is somehow less human, less deserving of the right to walk, work, attend school, be in public, where the racist is somehow inconvenienced by the fear the presence of the offending group arouses. It's about one group having the absolute right to assert its power over another group.
A rapist tells himself or herself that what s/he is doing is really ok; that somehow the victim wanted/deserved it or that what the victim wanted didn't really matter, that the victim somehow failed to adhere to whatever rules and expectations with sufficient perfection and that this rape, which isn't really a rape because secretly, that victim must really want it or else they would be more compliant--isn't really a rape at all, isn't really wrong, is deserved by the victim, is somehow a natural right of the rapist. What red blooded male doesn't see a semi-to unconscious 13 year old covered in her own vomit and think: She wants me! I gotta get me some of that! An erection aroused must be satisfied, after all. And if you can get a few or a dozen or so of your buddies to join in, then so much more fun--plus it just proves how natural what you are doing really is. If the victim really deserved to be left alone s/he wouldn't be there in that condition, dressed that way, etc. The rapist has an absolute right to assert his/her power/wishes over the victim.
A racist tells himself/herself that the offending group is somehow less human, less deserving of the right to walk, work, attend school, be in public, where the racist is somehow inconvenienced by the fear the presence of the offending group arouses. It's about one group having the absolute right to assert its power over another group.