Perhaps "scolding" was the wrong term. The NASB has it (Mark 5):
They *came to the house of the synagogue official; and He *saw a commotion, and people loudly weeping and wailing. 39 And entering in, He *said to them, “Why make a commotion and weep? The child has not died, but is asleep.” 40 They began laughing at Him.
I still don't think it is unreasonable, or anything other than human, to mourn our dead. Whatever hopes we may have for an eternal future, that doesn't change the fact that they are gone from us.
Completely agree.
Lazarus is raised in the story, yes, but can Jesus necessarily have known that this would be so?
Well, that's one of the questions raised in this thread, isn't it? Would Mr. "I and the Father are one" have necessarily known that he was about to invoke a divine miracle to raise a person from the dead? If he did, then why weep? If he didn't, then what does that say about his claims of divinity?
And even if his confidence in Lazarus' return were absolute, his dear friends Mary and Martha were weeping for their dead brother, and I don't think it would be unreasonable for him to weep with them in sympathy even if he knew with certainty that they were weeping needlessly.
So Jesus is a sympathetic crier? (I am too, by the way.) I raised the issue because we have two identical situations: a dead person that Jesus intends to resurrect. In one scenario, he weeps with the mourners. In the other, he dismisses the mourners' emotions.
Would you really prefer that Jesus were cold and heartless as a stone? Would the world be better off if he had never shown a moment of fear, grief, or anger?
Well, I would claim that a person not mourning when a friend is only "mostly dead" is not equivalent to "cold and heartless as a stone." More like, "doesn't mourn when there's nothing to mourn about." Why didn't he tell Mary and Martha, "Lazarus isn't dead; he's just talking a very long nap." How hard did he cry over Jairus' daughter? Mark doesn't say, but I get the sense he didn't mourn at all because there was no need to, even in the presence of truly mournful friends and family.
Or perhaps Mark and John fundamentally disagree over the nature of Jesus. That seems like a more likely way to square the circle.