They were ‘female presenting’ enough that both schools felt it was appropriate for them to use the girls’ restroom.
I’m not ‘requiring’ anything.
I admit I’m confused. In some posts, you seem to be telling me that women should just accept trans women in women’s restrooms and locker rooms and that we are foolish to have concerns. Now you seem to have some standard in mind by which an XY person must adhere to be considered sufficiently trans female to be able to use girls/women’s facilities.
You're being too generous of spirit. So far as I can tell, Loren asserts that all women should give over and accept all transgender identified males into women's intimate spaces without question... and if any male commits an offense against women while in one of those spaces, well, that male obviously isn't transgender, becauses clearly they're not Scottish.
Which of course does not consider trans youth who, in some states, are barred from receiving gender affirming care. Must they use restrooms at odds with their gender? That potentially put them in danger?
Serious question on this, I genuinely want your reasoning. If a female-bodied female youth uses the female restrooms and showers in school, what danger are they facing? Similarly, if a male-bodied male youth uses the male restrooms and showers, what danger are they facing? What danger are they put in by being expected to use the facilities in which everyone else has the same body type as them?
What, exactly, is female ( looking) enough? Does someone need to wear make up? A bra? Have hair of a certain length? Shave their legs? Be within a certain height range? Lack of facial hair? Body hair? Who decides?
Any standard you name, I absolutely guarantee you that there are plenty of XX girls and women who don’t conform. I’m pretty certain that I would not fit a lot of those so called standards of femininity at different points in my life. No one has ever, ever mistaken me for anything other than female.
That would probably be because how we infer someone's sex isn't based on their presentation or their style of dress in the vast majority of situations. The way in which we discern the sex of other adult humans is based on secondary sex characteristics and tertiary sex-correlated traits.
Contrary to the arguments made by many about how "well some females have beards" and "some males are short" that all lead to the erroneous conclusion that it's super difficult to tell who is male and who is female... humans actually do this with around 99% accuracy
on faces alone. The markers are so well established in fact, that they're cornerstones for facial recognition software, which has some of the highest accuracy possible for any visual-based software. So good that internet *toys* like instagram, snapchat, tiktok, etc. have easily available sex-swapping filters that are extremely effective.
This is a case where we have evolved some incredibly good cluster algorithms in our brains. There are dozens of physical markers that are sexually dimorphic in humans, and each of those traits has a distribution - and the distributions vary on the basis of sex. If you look at each one in isolation, there is a range of overlap on that trait - for example, there's overlap in foot size between males and females. But the range is relatively small compared to the standard deviations within each distribution. And when taken altogether, the likelihood of any individual falling into the overlap region of enough individual traits to cause actual confusion is extraordinarily small. A woman might be exceptionally tall and have big hands and feet (Lana!)... but it's infinitesimally likely that she also has no breasts, broad shoulders relative to hips, waist at or below her belly button, wide heels, flat brow ridges, low cheekbones, wide chin, pronounced jaw, flattened upper lip, narrow hips, forward tilted pelvis, straight femurs relative to the ground, squared or receding hairline, long ring fingers, squared orbital sockets, and low body fat in her hips and buttocks. The number of things that are likely to fall within one standard deviation of the norm for her sex far outweighs the number of things that are likely to fall within one standard deviation of the norm for the opposite sex.
Thus, when taken in totality... we're exceptionally good at correctly identifying the sex of other people once they hit puberty. If you think about it, it's an entirely reasonable evolutionary skill. It's rather beneficial to be able to accurately and efficiently identify which members of your species you can potentially reproduce with, and which you can't.
I realize that some posters will notice that I seem to be holding two different points of view, in conflict with each other. I admit this is something I struggle with trying to reconcile.
The over-reaching standard should be that everybody is able to be safe and secure in whatever bathroom or locker room facilities they use.
The difficulty is that unfortunately, female persons have every reason to be apprehensive of male persons in intimate spaces. Also, men have no intention of giving up even a tiny bit of male privilege.
I could be wrong, but I think the only realistic conflict you have is the pressure and desire to be nice, versus your commitment to observed reality. Because you're nice and caring, and you want everyone to be able to be safe and happy, you also want to try to make transgender identified people safe and happy. And I get that. Seriously, I was right there with you a decade ago.
If there were a practical way for that to happen, I'd be entirely supportive of that. If there were some way that could be actually put in practice that would allow us to quickly and efficiently identify which males are "genuinely transgender" and also "safe", that would go a long ways. But the reality right now is that such a method does not exist. There is no plausible way to distinguish a harmless genuine transgender male from a dangerous transgender male, and there's no plausible way to distinguish either of those from a bog-standard man who has tossed on a skirt and some lipstick.
And until we have a reliable way for all women to make that distinction... any policy that allows self-declared transwomen to use female intimate spaces as a right has the consequence of allowing any and all men into those spaces.
I'm not willing to sacrifice women's dignity and safety in such a way. Women aren't human shields, and we're not security blankets. We shouldn't be asked to increase our already exorbitant risk in order to help some males feel better about themselves.