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Lux Aeterna
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Nor anyone who lives in (or at least grew up in) the South. Remember 'Dixiecrats' and the 'Solid South'? Used to be that the Democrats would have been the most statistically racist, no question.
Oh, I'm pretty sure the residents of Detroit and Chicago and Baltimore and DC are... aware.
And yes, reticence to intermarriage is not restricted to people of one skin color. Don't know what point y'all think you're making, of course it does. Come to point, were I a black parent living in one of our more segregated cities, I would be nervous about my child marrying into an all white family and neighborhood. I wouldn't think they were doing something immoral, but I would worry a lot about their well-being.
Here in Georgia, mixed race children are extremely common although most people identify them as black. I have a white female friend who is married to a black man, and she confided in me that she gets angry at her husband sometimes because he identifies their children as black. I told her to tell him that are "blackish", after the TV show by the same name. I am married to a third generation Arabic American. My late mother in law didn't like that her sons married non Arabic women. It was more about culture than about ethnicity. She eventually bonded with me because we both grew up in New Jersey. Jersey girls are their own breed. And speaking of racism and segregation, most of New Jersey is far more racist and segregated than any of the southern cities I've lived in. White people in NJ are just a lot more subtle about their racism. There are many towns in northern NJ that are all or almost all white. Imo, the south has progressed far more than the north when it comes to racist tendencies. I'm not saying that we don't have racists here, but there are racists everywhere in the US.
I don't remember the name of the black comedian who is married to a white women, who said that some of his friends didn't like that he married a white woman. He told them not to worry because all of his kids were considered black. I don't know if it's because of the old racist rule about "one drop of black blood" or what, but for the most part, mixed race black/white people are identified as black. I tend to think that being blackish is considered very cool these days and some folks choose this identity even when they have more European DNA as compared to their African DNA. Anyway, I don't think that black people who don't like mixed race relationships feel that way for moral reasons. I think it has more to do with culture, just as it was with my late mother in law.
Having traveled around both regions some, I tend to agree. Even though I easily "pass" the entry condition, I feel weird and uncomfortable in the seemingly all-white suburbs of the North. Coming from California, it's just not what I'm used to I suppose, but it seems kind of creepy. Like a situation that would only occur for artificial and unnerving reasons. Not that we don't have our race issues out here, but we don't segregate like that. The South feels more like home.