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I'm not sure I agree with your logic. That you have reached a given conclusion is certain, and you are free to believe whatever you wish with regard to spanking. I simply don't believe that your argument supports that conclusion.

Consider: Very young children don't understand pretty much anything. They don't understand why they're not allowed to yank the cat's tail whenever they wish to. They don't understand why they can't have cake for every meal. They don't understand why they don't get to say bad words just like daddy. They don't understand why they're not allowed to drive. They don't understand why they can't bite or throw rocks or poop in the middle of the carpet. There's any number of things that they don't understand at all.

If understanding is required in order to provide discipline, then by your logic, no discipline at all is allowed.

A very young child will not understand why they're being placed in time out any more than they'll understand why they've received a sharp swat on the bottom. They won't understand why they're toy has been taken away from them. No disciplinary approach will make any more sense than spanking will.

I submit, however, that spanking may in some cases (certainly not all, and certainly not for all children) provide a more effective and memorable deterrent than time outs or loss of toys or other privileges may. Pain avoidance is a very strong, intrinsically hard-wired instinct for all animals, so far as I know. The pain should of course not be catastrophic, it shouldn't be damaging. And as I've said, it certainly isn't for all cases. If a less drastic approach works for your child, then by all means use that approach. And if you personally prefer not to spank your child, then don't.

I don't however, see a solid logical argument that supports forcing your belief in this regard on other people.
Your entire response confuses spanking with discipline. Children can be disciplined without resorting to violence and they will "get it". Sometimes it takes a bit longer to get through, but it works.

I disagree. rousseau's argument hinges on the premise that "One needs to have an understanding of why they're being spanked for the spanking to have any long-term effect on behavior".

It must then be true for any other form of discipline as well: One needs to have an understanding of why they're being disciplined for the discipline to have any long-term effect on behavior. Otherwise, it's simply special pleading.

Rousseau's argument relies on the fact that a child won't understand why they're being spanked, therefore it doesn't make any sense to spank them. But by that logic, it also makes no sense to put them in time out, or to take away their toys, or to perform any other sort of discipline, because they also don't understand why that discipline is being administered.

Thus, I conclude that rousseau's argument does not support rousseau's conclusion; rousseau has made a faulty argument.
 
No. I'm not that linear. Children aren't ducklings. They don't learn their parents by imprinting, they learn by constructing scenarios, pathways, plans, solutions, like that. Behaviorism was compelling because it captured some essence of how we seemed to work. Evolutionary neuroscience is compelling because it ties evolution with defining metrics against which to evaluate evolutionary and behavioral change. Spanking is compelling because it gets right at an alerting and withdrawal, a successful flee mechanism.

If you don't think that our being a top predator isn't due to our ability to replicate and extend violence. Sure its not all that good during times of supply surplus or equity, but, its at the base of what we used to get here and it will be again when we deplete that which we exploit now.

The research says that you are wrong on the bolded :shrug:

Its not the research. It may be some socially constrained, industrialized society, political motive, social science, research which leaves out controls all over the place. Its certainly not 'the research'.

For example "Punishment in Animal Societies" http://www.anth.ucsb.edu/faculty/gurven/anth169/punishment_in_animal_societies.pdf isn't included in 'the research'.
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The research says that you are wrong on the bolded :shrug:

Its not the research. It may be some socially constrained, industrialized society, political motive, social science, research which leaves out controls all over the place. Its certainly not 'the research'.

For example "Punishment in Animal Societies" http://www.anth.ucsb.edu/faculty/gurven/anth169/punishment_in_animal_societies.pdf isn't included in 'the research'.

So you advocate for shaking your children until they are dead? At, at minimum, believe that should not be against the law if it happens during this "do it like a morehen" style of parenting that you do advocate?
 
Its not the research. It may be some socially constrained, industrialized society, political motive, social science, research which leaves out controls all over the place. Its certainly not 'the research'.

For example "Punishment in Animal Societies" http://www.anth.ucsb.edu/faculty/gurven/anth169/punishment_in_animal_societies.pdf isn't included in 'the research'.

So you advocate for shaking your children until they are dead? At, at minimum, believe that should not be against the law if it happens during this "do it like a morehen" style of parenting that you do advocate?

WOW. You couldn't have been more alarmist if you'd written that in bold caps.

This is a social science forum not an advocacy or political forum.

I distinguish between any and excessive. We are permitted to discuss the scientific limits to punishment here. Sanctions can then be properly applied. Its one thing to forbid knives being carried to parties. Its quite another to suggest we don't ever use knives.

My main quibble is with those who say any form of physical touching of little children by adults as being abuse. I'm also a bit perplexed by those who would social engineer how people treat people since we don't regulate what groups people should be among (Indians on reservations for instance versus billionaires in gated communities in Bel Air.)
 
So you advocate for shaking your children until they are dead? At, at minimum, believe that should not be against the law if it happens during this "do it like a morehen" style of parenting that you do advocate?

WOW. You couldn't have been more alarmist if you'd written that in bold caps.

This is a social science forum not an advocacy or political forum.

I distinguish between any and excessive. We are permitted to discuss the scientific limits to punishment here. Sanctions can then be properly applied. Its one thing to forbid knives being carried to parties. Its quite another to suggest we don't ever use knives.

My main quibble is with those who say any form of physical touching of little children by adults as being abuse. I'm also a bit perplexed by those who would social engineer how people treat people since we don't regulate what groups people should be among (Indians on reservations for instance versus billionaires in gated communities in Bel Air.)

It sounds to me like you are being the alarmist since no one has stated "any form of physical touching of little children by adults [is] abuse". If this is not supposed to be an advocacy or political discussion, neither is it one in which strawmen are used willy-nilly.

Kindly post, with links, any one who said "any form of physical touching of little children by adults as being abuse" and then we will start again, ok?

As for the "social science" value of the article you posted in support of your position, it discussed the fact that some animals kill their young. So if we are supposed to get some justification for humans spanking their young from that, then I suggest again that you explain how.
 
Kindly post, with links, any one who said "any form of physical touching of little children by adults as being abuse" and then we will start again, ok?

Please see http://talkfreethought.org/showthread.php?2621-Discipline-for-children&p=93212&viewfull=1#post93212 under the heading Professional Opinion

To wit:
The United Nations Committee on the Rights of the Child defines physical punishment that causes any degree of pain and discomfort (even light) to be abuse. They argue that eliminating corporal punishment of children is “a key strategy for reducing and preventing all forms of violence in societies”

Professional yes, scientific no.

let me restart by answering your request for an explanation of the animal study I posted.:

As for the "social science" value of the article you posted in support of your position, it discussed the fact that some animals kill their young. So if we are supposed to get some justification for humans spanking their young from that, then I suggest again that you explain how.

The paper is written in terms of fitness and evolution, a process through which humans have arrived at our present positin as prime predator. One of the areas they mentioned in their conclusion is that dominant members successfully reduce the ability of subordinate members by such as corporal punishment. Through this approach they induce with minimum killing an orderly hierarchy in their groups permitting less conflict and less death within kin groups. We still do something similar through the use of authority to establish laws that are enforced to maintain order. It turns out leviathans are presently the most successful governing form among humans and it turns out that murder or within species killing is currently at its lowest rate in the history of human kind. See Pinker's " The Better Angels of Our Nature" for why I wrote this so blatantly.

Its also why I wrote "its proper to keep one from wearing knives to parties but it isn't proper to ban the use of knives."

My goal in this discussion is pursue ways to keep the bleeding, both of the heart and of humans overall, from violence. Prohibiting parental spanking is not the thing to achieve reduced violence among humans. Authority is a key to order and opening up possibilities for cooperation. Well codified authority together with individual responsibility and participation by individuals are key ingredients for attaining such as a democratic society.

If, in a well ordered society, some segments are permitted to experiment with the elimination of child punishment and use other means to maintain order and authority so be it. I just don't have faith that trying to eliminate something we are built to do is going to yield good results.
 
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Your entire response confuses spanking with discipline. Children can be disciplined without resorting to violence and they will "get it". Sometimes it takes a bit longer to get through, but it works.

I disagree. rousseau's argument hinges on the premise that "One needs to have an understanding of why they're being spanked for the spanking to have any long-term effect on behavior".

It must then be true for any other form of discipline as well: One needs to have an understanding of why they're being disciplined for the discipline to have any long-term effect on behavior. Otherwise, it's simply special pleading....
Not necessarily because inflicting pain is particularly onerous. In fact, it may make it more difficult for the child to understand why he or she is being disciplined because he/she may focus on the pain. And, of course, some physical discipline is the result of poor self-control rather than some calculated punishment or consequence.
 
"They have less understanding of basically everything" therefore we spank them makes no sense at all. One needs to have an understanding of why they're being spanked for the spanking to have any long-term effect on behavior. If they don't, it makes even less sense to spank them. It's actually a very good argument of why you shouldn't spank your kids.

I'm not sure I agree with your logic. That you have reached a given conclusion is certain, and you are free to believe whatever you wish with regard to spanking. I simply don't believe that your argument supports that conclusion.

Consider: Very young children don't understand pretty much anything. They don't understand why they're not allowed to yank the cat's tail whenever they wish to. They don't understand why they can't have cake for every meal. They don't understand why they don't get to say bad words just like daddy. They don't understand why they're not allowed to drive. They don't understand why they can't bite or throw rocks or poop in the middle of the carpet. There's any number of things that they don't understand at all.

If understanding is required in order to provide discipline, then by your logic, no discipline at all is allowed.

A very young child will not understand why they're being placed in time out any more than they'll understand why they've received a sharp swat on the bottom. They won't understand why they're toy has been taken away from them. No disciplinary approach will make any more sense than spanking will.

I submit, however, that spanking may in some cases (certainly not all, and certainly not for all children) provide a more effective and memorable deterrent than time outs or loss of toys or other privileges may. Pain avoidance is a very strong, intrinsically hard-wired instinct for all animals, so far as I know. The pain should of course not be catastrophic, it shouldn't be damaging. And as I've said, it certainly isn't for all cases. If a less drastic approach works for your child, then by all means use that approach. And if you personally prefer not to spank your child, then don't.

I don't however, see a solid logical argument that supports forcing your belief in this regard on other people.

Well said.
 
Please see http://talkfreethought.org/showthread.php?2621-Discipline-for-children&p=93212&viewfull=1#post93212 under the heading Professional Opinion

To wit:
The United Nations Committee on the Rights of the Child defines physical punishment that causes any degree of pain and discomfort (even light) to be abuse. They argue that eliminating corporal punishment of children is “a key strategy for reducing and preventing all forms of violence in societies”

Professional yes, scientific no.
Also not what you claimed. "physical punishment that causes any degree of pain and discomfort" is not the same as "any form of physical touching of little children by adults as being abuse" - it is "physical punishment that causes any degree of pain and discomfort"

let me restart by answering your request for an explanation of the animal study I posted.:

As for the "social science" value of the article you posted in support of your position, it discussed the fact that some animals kill their young. So if we are supposed to get some justification for humans spanking their young from that, then I suggest again that you explain how.

The paper is written in terms of fitness and evolution, a process through which humans have arrived at our present positoin as prime predator. One of the areas they mentioned in their conclusion is that dominant members successfully reduce the ability of subordinate members by such as corporal punishment. Through this approach they induce with minimum killing an orderly hierarchy in their groups permitting less conflict and less death within kin groups. We still do something similar through the use of authority to establish laws that are enforced to maintain order. It turns out leviathans are presently the most successful governing form among humans and it turns out that murder or within species killing is currently at its lowest rate in the history of human kind. See Pinker's " The Better Angels of Our Nature" for why I wrote this so blatantly.

Its also why I wrote "its proper to keep one from wearing knives to parties but it isn't proper to ban the use of knives."

My goal in this discussion is pursue ways to keep the bleeding, both of the heart and of humans overall, from violence. Prohibiting parental spanking is not the thing to achieve reduced violence among humans. Authority is a key to order and opening up possibilities for cooperation. Well codified authority together with individual responsibility and participation by individuals are key ingredients for attaining such as a democratic society.

If, in a well ordered society, some segments are permitted to experiment with the elimination of child punishment and use other means to maintain order and authority so be it. I just don't have faith that trying to eliminate something we are built to do is going to yield good results.
You still have not presented any sort of parallel or link between anything contained in the article and an argument in favor of spanking. The article talks about "punishment" but that doesn't imply "spanking" in humans.

Your article talks about establishing dominance in groups. We've all seen such dominance contests on Animal Planet or with our own pets. In general, this type of dominance contest takes place between the adults of the species or between the "children" of the species. It doesn't occur as the adults against the children. As such, this example gives no support to your argument.

The second section refers to "theft, parasitism, predation" - basically thieves are dealt with harshly. In every example in your article, however, the thief is an outsider. Again, this argument regarding "punishment" in other animal species gives you no support in your argument for spanking.

Section 3 - establishment of mating bonds - oh yes, lets use this model of raping and attacking the females to subordinate them - no thanks. This section is an excellent example of why just finding it somewhere in another species doesn't make it automatically appropriate for humans.

Section 5 - enforcement of cooperative behavior - "dominate breeders coerce subordinates to assist them..." "...dominate animals are usually more likely than other group members to punish non-cooperatives and commonly gain a disproportionate share of reproduction." Sounds pretty much like a typical human social structure, too, but still doesn't support your argument for spanking.

So back to Section 4 - Parent/Offspring conflict. It says "parents often adopt punishing tactics adapted to modify the behavior of their offspring". It goes on to say "In vertebrates, females will bite, peck, kick or slap juveniles that persistently attempt to" monopolize resources. The very next paragraph is the one you got so annoyed at earlier - the one about parents killing their offspring. So, since you are presumably not suggesting we kill our misbehaving children, and I would hope you are likewise not advocating that we "bite, peck, kick or slap" our children, this section also fails to provide a rationalization for spanking. I will particularly point you to two aspects of this section.

First, by the author's own definition "punishment" needn't be only physical. He defines it as "the infliction of an ill for an ill done." In another section he uses the example of evicting diplomats from squabbling countries - something that is obviously not a physical assault but still an example of the "enforcement of reciprocal behavior"

Second, to quote the author again, "parents often adopt punishing tactics adapted to modify the behavior of their offspring" <<---- nothing here says the punishment must be corporal punishment, but does very clearly suggest that parents can ADAPT methods to modify a child's behavior. Examples: losing television privileges, home restriction, the naughty chair, etc.

I do find it interesting the the article you post begins by quoting Machiavelli stating that it is better to be feared than loved. If that is what a parent is hoping to achieve - to be feared rather than loved, then by all means... spank.

But understand that doing so only instills fear rather than genuine behavior modification - which is exactly what we've been saying all along.
 
Please see http://talkfreethought.org/showthread.php?2621-Discipline-for-children&p=93212&viewfull=1#post93212 under the heading Professional Opinion

To wit:

Professional yes, scientific no.
Also not what you claimed. "physical punishment that causes any degree of pain and discomfort" is not the same as "any form of physical touching of little children by adults as being abuse" - it is "physical punishment that causes any degree of pain and discomfort"

So you advocate for shaking your children until they are dead? At, at minimum, believe that should not be against the law if it happens during this "do it like a morehen" style of parenting that you do advocate?

My use of touching is not nearly so overboard as your taking the fact that some animals kill, like us, their kin then saying I advocate shaking children to death ... is my style of parenting.

Please note I've met your challenge to find an article. I purposely refuse to defend animal study results as being hand and glove with how humans should punish.

Actually the stuff in your critique I had already covered in my previous post.

I shall repeat that and you can find where the material addresses your critique

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One of the areas they mentioned in their conclusion is that dominant members successfully reduce the ability of subordinate members by such as corporal punishment. Through this approach they induce with minimum killing an orderly hierarchy in their groups permitting less conflict and less death within kin groups. We still do something similar through the use of authority to establish laws that are enforced to maintain order. It turns out leviathans are presently the most successful governing form among humans and it turns out that murder or within species killing is currently at its lowest rate in the history of human kind. See Pinker's "
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The Better Angels of Our Nature" for why I wrote this so blatantly.Its also why I wrote "its proper to keep one from wearing knives to parties but it isn't proper to ban the use of knives."

My goal in this discussion is pursue ways to keep the bleeding, both of the heart and of humans overall, from violence. Prohibiting parental spanking is not the thing to achieve reduced violence among humans. Authority is a key to order and opening up possibilities for cooperation. Well codified authority together with individual responsibility and participation by individuals are key ingredients for attaining such as a democratic society.

If, in a well ordered society, some segments are permitted to experiment with the elimination of child punishment and use other means to maintain order and authority so be it. I just don't have faith that trying to eliminate something we are built to do is going to yield good results.

I don't believe spanking is really very productive as a behavioral learning tool, it isn't. I do know that humans evolved with equipment that rewards social structure and equipment that provides for using physical punishment as a viable option for getting to that end.

I'm going to repeat Prohibiting parental spanking is not the thing to achieve reduced violence among humans so I'm not going to support something like the UN wrote that
They argue that eliminating corporal punishment of children is “a key strategy for reducing and preventing all forms of violence in societies”

Eliminating violence is not something that is achievable in vertebrates as we know them here on earth. We're not built right to accomplish that. Try another path.

The ones I favor include strong families built on as much trust as can be accomplished within large democratic, fairly orderly - as orderly as one can imagine a responsible individual populated democracy -responsibility driven, leviathans which will keep the killing to a minimum.
 
So you post an article that has nothing whatsoever to do with the subject of spanking, and now claim that you didn't post it in support of spanking, and further, that you don't really even support spanking as a parental punishment.

Ok, whatever.
 
So you post an article that has nothing whatsoever to do with the subject of spanking, and now claim that you didn't post it in support of spanking, and further, that you don't really even support spanking as a parental punishment.

Ok, whatever.

Factual errors don't make your position better.

If you want to support the humanist position all you need to do is to connect it to the evolutionist data.
 
So you post an article that has nothing whatsoever to do with the subject of spanking, and now claim that you didn't post it in support of spanking, and further, that you don't really even support spanking as a parental punishment.

Ok, whatever.

Factual errors don't make your position better.

If you want to support the humanist position all you need to do is to connect it to the evolutionist data.

YOU need to explain and support whatever position it is that you keep dancing around. I very patiently went through the entire article you posted and wrote in detail why I do not think it supports a case for spanking - the subject of this thread. In return, you give me a bunch of unrelated contradictory blocks of text and several snarky comments. I can only assume, then, that you really have no actual interest in discussing the issues, nor coherently stating (much less defending) your position.

I'm done attempting to have a conversation on this with you. Please, by all means, continue to snark. Buh bye.
 
You are going to spank a child so they won't get bit by a dog? That doesn't even make rational sense, so I hope you are joking.

No. I'm not that linear. Children aren't ducklings. They don't learn their parents by imprinting, they learn by constructing scenarios, pathways, plans, solutions, like that. Behaviorism was compelling because it captured some essence of how we seemed to work. Evolutionary neuroscience is compelling because it ties evolution with defining metrics against which to evaluate evolutionary and behavioral change. Spanking is compelling because it gets right at an alerting and withdrawal, a successful flee mechanism.

If you don't think that our being a top predator isn't due to our ability to replicate and extend violence. Sure its not all that good during times of supply surplus or equity, but, its at the base of what we used to get here and it will be again when we deplete that which we exploit now.
Actually you're wrong. Children learn quite a bit from watching their parents, siblings and those closest to them.

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Yes, pain helps with our survival. Burning your finger on a hot stove tells us not to do that again. However, all spanking "teaches" is that assault solves problems and forces compliance. Is this really what we want children to grow up believing?

No dear. I want my children to know what pain is before they experience it while being attacked by your dog.
You're safe. I don't have a dog.
 
Factual errors don't make your position better.

If you want to support the humanist position all you need to do is to connect it to the evolutionist data.

YOU need to explain and support whatever position it is that you keep dancing around. I very patiently went through the entire article you posted and wrote in detail why I do not think it supports a case for spanking - the subject of this thread..

Here is our disagreement. The OP is disciplining children, the example chosen in the OP is child spanking. My view.

Your view is that anything other than spanking is not appropriate for the topic discipline for children. Under cover of that narrow view you think you have answered why the article I selected doesn't address child spanking. You haven't.

Child spanking is one of many corporal forms of punishment which you acknowledge with your reference to UN policy which goes so far as to advocate removal of all violent behavior by adults with children, violence being any form of physical disciplining treatment of children including, in my Humble opinion, unwanted touching by adults.

You are sending mixed messages. Is spanking the only behavior you consider or do you consider any behavior you use to answer my presentation, violent shaking, killing, as suitable topic for discussion discipline for children?

The article I submitted goes to the point that humans as evolved beings are suited to use of force, including use of force in training and disciplining children. Use of force is common among animals, some of which is well beyond norms we find appropriate in modern society except when that society is under pressure of starvation or war. Then humans revert back to traditions used as recently the present, selling, killing, children who are a burden on family survival. This illustrated to me as recently as last night by a Law & Order repeat episode where Russian children were 'rescued' from being set out as wolf food in Russia to be sold to Americans who could provide the medical care they needed. Obviously this is not common, but, it is enough for writers to produce a well researched show laying out the entire situation.

Yes I refer to fiction here, but, it illustrates points made as well in japan, China, India, Iran, Brazil, Mexico, etc. where children are murdered or left to die just to keep more food, on the table, increase prestige, for productive family members.

The point of all this. We aren't in a position to attack spanking nor remove violence from child training or discipline. Primarily such is unreasonable, in my view, because we are a violent species with violent predispositions (the reason for my use of that particular article).

I try to guide you off of approaches that are just going to be counter productive, probably just poking sand down a hole. Rather we should doing something that will reduce violence coming from the social top down as it appears that all things that contribute to human cultures becoming a more accepting, less violent seem to come (My reason for providing you with Pinker's book of trends in human violence). Punishing isn't good for anybody. Its bad for children its bad for parents.

As scientists we need to get at root causes that can be addressed so overall violence, the goal of the UN group you mentioned, to which I've been trying to focus you since. The UN approach, seemingly the banning of violent behavior in adults toward children is very wrong headed. One doesn't eliminate bad behavior with bad behavior as a control.

Look at authority. With authority we can have laws, ethics, responsibility, and even democracy, embedded in individuals through training, control (governments, laws, armies, police, social systems, etiquette, implied threat of punishment, and the like. Rather than focus on individuals through law and individual training we can set policy, develop icons of behavior, evoke social trends, enact laws, giving substance to the idea that we are against violent behavior as parents toward children. Use social pressure rather than force. We should not use violent behavior on parents to suppress their tendencies, instead we substitute positive alternatives and rewards for supporting and motivating children to be accepting and positive toward others. We are encouraged to act a models. We can set models for acceptance that take into account our extreme capabilities for finding difference and tagging such as threat.

If we go after a symptom rather than a goal, parental child spanking instead of using reward for exhibiting shared responsibility for reducing violence and exhibiting positive characteristics as parents to our children, we make accomplishment of our shared goal for a less violent, safer, population more remote.
 
No. I'm not that linear. Children aren't ducklings. They don't learn their parents by imprinting, they learn by constructing scenarios, pathways, plans, solutions, like that. Behaviorism was compelling because it captured some essence of how we seemed to work. Evolutionary neuroscience is compelling because it ties evolution with defining metrics against which to evaluate evolutionary and behavioral change. Spanking is compelling because it gets right at an alerting and withdrawal, a successful flee mechanism.

If you don't think that our being a top predator isn't due to our ability to replicate and extend violence. Sure its not all that good during times of supply surplus or equity, but, its at the base of what we used to get here and it will be again when we deplete that which we exploit now.
Actually you're wrong. Children learn quite a bit from watching their parents, siblings and those closest to them.

The point I made about children aren't duckling is children aren't very much on imprinting. Children are learning beings rather than, like ducks, - I hate writing this, but, there isn't a more suitable word in this context - instinctive beings.

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I disagree. rousseau's argument hinges on the premise that "One needs to have an understanding of why they're being spanked for the spanking to have any long-term effect on behavior".

It must then be true for any other form of discipline as well: One needs to have an understanding of why they're being disciplined for the discipline to have any long-term effect on behavior. Otherwise, it's simply special pleading....
Not necessarily because inflicting pain is particularly onerous. In fact, it may make it more difficult for the child to understand why he or she is being disciplined because he/she may focus on the pain.
Do you have reason to believe that physical pain is less trauma-inducing and confusing than mental anguish? You have a very large number of unsupported "may" statements in there.

And, of course, some physical discipline is the result of poor self-control rather than some calculated punishment or consequence.
Conversely, some non-physical discipline, such as yelling, name-calling, and other verbal and mental abuse, is also the result of poor self-control rather than some calculated punishment or consequence. Unless you have well-supported reasons to believe that every case of a parent yelling at a child, sending a child to their room, or cases of withholding toys, entertainment, deserts, or other pleasures are always well-thought-out and controlled actions on the part of the adults in questions, your observation is irrelevant.
 
Not necessarily because inflicting pain is particularly onerous. In fact, it may make it more difficult for the child to understand why he or she is being disciplined because he/she may focus on the pain.
Do you have reason to believe that physical pain is less trauma-inducing and confusing than mental anguish? You have a very large number of unsupported "may" statements in there.

And, of course, some physical discipline is the result of poor self-control rather than some calculated punishment or consequence.
Conversely, some non-physical discipline, such as yelling, name-calling, and other verbal and mental abuse, is also the result of poor self-control rather than some calculated punishment or consequence. Unless you have well-supported reasons to believe that every case of a parent yelling at a child, sending a child to their room, or cases of withholding toys, entertainment, deserts, or other pleasures are always well-thought-out and controlled actions on the part of the adults in questions, your observation is irrelevant.
Does it say that it is?
 
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