Lol, I actually called out my colleagues for this. We've been doing a substantial amount of planning lately, as our teams are in the midst of a lot of role transition and cultural change. My director is a white male, and my managerial colleagues are: 3 white males, 1 asian male, 2 white females (including me) and 1 indian female. Our roles are diverse, covering a spectrum of DBA and infrastructure management, system and enterprise architecture, data science, analysis, and reporting. I noticed that in all of our meetings, it was always one of the three women who was asked to take notes on the white board, or send out a summary, or something similar. I (not being a wilting violet as expected of my fragile gender) quite blatantly suggested that maybe one of the males in the room could take on that secretarial role for a change. The immediate response was "well, our handwriting is worse" to which I responded "then you clearly need more practice, don't you?". The end result was marginally satisfactory, although still not a win - now our office administrator attends our planning sessions in order to take notes. Our office administrator, of course, is female
I really think this story needs more attention and thought. There are a lot of facets to it. I don't know what a facet is, but I am sure they are there.
One interesting thing is the guy who says their handwriting sucks. What kind of thing is that to say? No, I mean, literally, what kind of thing is it? It isn't sarcastic, it isn't ironic, and it's not meant to be a friendly joke. It's more like saying "Fuck you, you do it." but with a smile. So, how do you classify such a statement? I am going to go with the term "indirect aggression." It's a way to get you to be upset, stomp your feet, and then do it, or to say, "what the fuck" out loud and then get in trouble, but without all the pre-planning because he has the privilege of a structure where the default of everything supports his continued position of non-work, non-taking notes. It's a manipulation.
Now, your response to his indirect aggression was assertive, but it could easily come across as bitchy. As I wrote above, he's put you in a position where your response will be judged--people will look for an outburst or emotion and magnify it because you're a woman. A guy could get away with saying "The fuck you say" and smirk. Because you know, guys are cool. If you are a woman and you say that, you're an inappropriate person with emotional stability problems or , worse, a third-wave feminist who hates men. So, you're being assertive, but because of the structure that is in place, you may come across as the aggressive one.
Other ladies in the situation or in the room at the time may not have responded because walking that fine line is tough.
Since I have been going on about assertiveness and aggression, I thought I'd point this out.