I didn't say *have* to, I said it's likely. Big difference.
OK, granted. My main point remains though - that in the OP you seem to be talking about paths to
intelligent species and now you want to make it about life in general.
It can be true that life on a different planet would move in roughly similar directions overall without it being true that the species we'd be interacting most would be anything other than weird when compared to humans.
For example, there'll probably be "trees" - photosynthetic organisms that compete for putting their leaves closer to the sunlight. There's going to agile heterotrophic organisms that make the crowns of those "trees" their habitat. On some (possibly many) worlds, some of those
might have an endoskeleton and be warm-blooded, so with some tolerance for superficials, you might want to classify them as equivalents of monkeys (or koalas, or squirrels, or...). But - and here we need to reduce our sample to worlds where
intelligent life has evolved - there's no good reason to assume that the intelligent species - the "aliens" that are being portrayed in sci-fi - would hail from that clade.