Jarhyn said:
Not to mention, yes, public denial of a gender identity is family violence, for the same reason it would be illegal were I to tell everyone and sundry as a nurse that someone had to have their balls cut off due to a testicular torsion.
Illegal, perhaps. It depends on the law, but chances are in most places it would be illegal. Depending on your motivations, it may well be unethical. But it would not be
violence.
Jarhyn said:
The nurse only knows because of their obligation to provide treatment, similarly the parent only knows because of a similar obligation for providing care.
No, the father knows because he knows the child since she was born, not because he has an obligation (he does, but that is not why he knows). If the father had abandoned the future mother before the child was born, he would still have an obligation to provide care, but he may very well not know.
Jarhyn said:
What they find out about the private information of those people is still private.
Parents regularly tell other people (third parties, parents of classmates, etc.) that they have a daughter or a son, etc.
Jarhyn said:
I see no reason to treat the situation of (person who is not you) (gaining access to privileged information as a function of who they are, as a functionary assisting you with your health and wellness)(disclosing privileged information) any different just because the thing they didn't choose to do was be born to this parent vs be driven to this hospital.
Well, clearly that is not how the father gained information, and also clearly, parents disclose that information about their children all the time, which is pretty ordinary frankly. What is not ordinary here is the child's claim to have a boy's brain, or the father's reply. But the "disclosure" of information about their children is pretty normal.
Regardless, maybe what he did was wrong. It depends on the information available to him. From what I read, the child, the mother and the father are all three jumping to conclusions, though the precise extent of their epistemic errors - and, in relation to that, their moral culpability - is difficult to assess without further details. However, I am not arguing it was not wrong.
Jarhyn said:
It is dumb that this even needs to be explained. It's dumb that this needs to be explained to the father of this boy. It's dumb that it needs to be explained to the posters here. It's dumb that the posters here can't be arsed to stand with the son and at least not abuse him the way his father did.
I would not stand with the judge that incarcerated a man for expressing his views to the media when, for all we know, he was trying to save his daughter. I do not know how much information he has, but imprisonment is both abusive and - of course - violent.
As for being dumb, I would say it is...well, not really dumb, more like religious... none of the Woke is willing to debate me in support of their trans claims.
Jarhyn said:
Now instead of the father calling him a girl, it's random assholes all over the world calling him a girl, just because he wasn't born with testicles.
Well, that is not why I would call her a girl. Rather, after assessing the available information, including my observations about how most English speakers "in the wild" use the words (i.e., not when thinking about the tenets of their ideology), which support the assessment that she is very probably a girl, though I cannot say it's certain. Will my assessment make her feel bad? That seems improbable. But - at any rate - it is probable that my assessments regularly make a number of people who show up here feel bad. It's a discussion board.
In any event, though, this is not violence.