The problem here is that you are utterly unwilling to consider the context in which something is said.
Because your tortured rapesplaining about "context" does not matter. I will repeat just for you - it does not matter where, when or to whom this rapist made his claims that the four-year-old victim "initiated it" and "wanted it" - he was victim-blaming when he said it.
It most definitely matters. In a context in which he is expected to give a detailed description of the situation you are asking him to lie.
It sounds like he structured it as a game they play. She might very well have wanted to play the game but that doesn't shift any of the blame!
The real problem here, Loren, is that you are regularly guilty of victim-blaming yourself, so you either can't recognize it when someone else is doing it or you don't dare admit you understand else you might be called to task when you do it.
No. The other thread got out of hand and locked so I never pointed out your error--you are treating anything that implies the victim could have in any way changed their actions with an eye to preventing the incident as victim blaming. You model crime as one perp hunting a specific victim when in practice the perp is very often hunting a suitable victim and doesn't have a specific one in mind.