DrZoidberg
Contributor
I try to avoid feeling proud about stuff. When I do it's usually because I'm insecure about something, and my subconscious is desperate to prove to itself (ego) that I'm good enough. When I've figured out what it's about my feelings of pride disappear.
Lately I've started to see pride as a alluring corrupting trap of the ego. Things I'm successful about and I feel proud about, is usually only about me overcoming some hurdle. But a large part of that is that the hurdle was probably imaginary to begin with. Ie I thougt it was harder than it really was. Or I just got over it because I was lucky.
People who are proud of bigger things. Stuff like being proud of one's family or country, must have the worst self esteem in the world. That's all stuff outside of their control. Don't get me wrong, I tell people that I'm proud of them all the time, when they've done a good job. Not doing so would be impolite. But I'm not really proud of them.
Being proud about stuff is measuring yourself in performance and achievements. Ie, you have such a low view of yourself that you need to have things that are objectively measurable to feel any self love. Like you have to prove to yourself that you deserve life itself. Sad.
What I value is intimacy. Being seen and see somebody else completely and wholly. Being able to open up to another. Accepting them warts and all, and being accepted.
Anyhoo... just a flash of insight I had. Feel free to disagree.
Lately I've started to see pride as a alluring corrupting trap of the ego. Things I'm successful about and I feel proud about, is usually only about me overcoming some hurdle. But a large part of that is that the hurdle was probably imaginary to begin with. Ie I thougt it was harder than it really was. Or I just got over it because I was lucky.
People who are proud of bigger things. Stuff like being proud of one's family or country, must have the worst self esteem in the world. That's all stuff outside of their control. Don't get me wrong, I tell people that I'm proud of them all the time, when they've done a good job. Not doing so would be impolite. But I'm not really proud of them.
Being proud about stuff is measuring yourself in performance and achievements. Ie, you have such a low view of yourself that you need to have things that are objectively measurable to feel any self love. Like you have to prove to yourself that you deserve life itself. Sad.
What I value is intimacy. Being seen and see somebody else completely and wholly. Being able to open up to another. Accepting them warts and all, and being accepted.
Anyhoo... just a flash of insight I had. Feel free to disagree.