DrZoidberg
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For the same reason there's an Australian beetle who'd rather shag a beer bottle than any lady beetles. The way sexuality works in the animal kingdom (and therefore also for humans) is that certain extremely specific markers are coded for. When these are present it leads to a sexual reaction. These are sorted into patterns or strict progressions. Each step of the way genetically coded for and requires it's specific marker. These are among the most fundamental genetic programmings that exist for any species. To think that it wouldn't apply for humans is well... let's call it an uphill battle to argue for. You're going to need some extremely strong evidence (that we haven't found yet) to argue against this.
Since we're a social species, many of the sexual markers that we look for are behavioural. This is also true in all the other primates. Yet another strong piece of evidence that is also applies to us.
Well... duh. It should be obvious. From the mere fact that humans are at all capable of having sex at other times than when the woman can become pregnant we can draw conclusions. The most obvious is that humans have sex for other reasons than procreation. We have sex to form emotional bonds. That's the one of the main functions of human sex. Procreation being the other. We also know this because the other higher primates are very similar. Gorillas being the main exception who only have sex when the lady gorilla can get pregnant.
As a social species sex is about forming emotional bonds. Compare it to dancing, another instinct we've got. Dancing is about partnership. It's about finding a common pattern of movement and having the bodies and minds in perfect synch. Ever see Salsa dancers on the floor? Hot as hell. Fetishes are the same way. Two people bond over a common sexual weirdness. It evolves evolutionary. Over time these behaviours get wierder and wierder. But when we were hunter gatherers the evolution of these kinds of behaviours couldn't really go very far. And fetishes are always about things in our midst. It's about sexualising common objects. Before the rise of pornography statue fetish was common. People would fall in love with erotic statues. That disappeared when porn came.
Even though sex is the meeting between minds. It's really all happening in just one mind... yours. The other person is just there to trigger various sexual instincts. Sex is fundamentally solipsistic. We're letting another into our solipsism. So even though the sexual urge is to bring people together. And does work to do that. That's just a side effect of your own minds selfish sexual urge. Our intelligent symbolic minds can quite easily completely cut out the other partner and replace it only by mechanical triggerings of our sexual instincts. And we don't need all that much either. Just like those Austrialian beetles. The fact that we can enjoy porn at all is a failure of evolution. Or we can put on furry suits. Not sure what instinct that triggers. But who am I to judge? It's obviously getting people off. So I just call that something I've left to learn.
Humans aren't capable of unnatural sexual acts. If people do something that gets them off sexually we need to work that into our model of explanation. Just saying that people shouldn't doesn't explain shit.
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