DrZoidberg
Contributor
In another thread the concept of cuckoldry was discussed. A conservative implied that it is a source of shame.
I'm liberal, and I've always hung about with the gay and queer scene. I'm boringly straight as an arrow (and a man). And I've always had zero hang-ups about my body or sex. I think it's the result of my parents being hippies. As a child I got exposed to naked bodies and adult sexuality (in the best possible way). So when it became my turn to have sex I was well prepared.
I should also add that all my long-term relationships have at some point or another been open. I'm much too confident and secure in myself to feel threatened by other men. If my girlfriend leaves me for a lover, then I guess she didn't love me anyway and it's all for the best. And I off course enjoy sleeping with other women than my girlfriend. Me being in love has never prevented that.
So this whole worry about unfaithfulness and cuckoldry just strikes me as odd. To me we're sometimes less or more interested in sex. Both people in a relationship won't have the same sexual appetites. It's just natural and normal for the person who is more horny to find fulfillment elsewhere, just to satiate the sexual need. Nothing kills the relationship faster than sexual death.
I must admit that I have pretty bad grasp of what the norms are around this. I just don't know how normal or odd I am.
So, that's what I'm asking. What is your take on this? What are the rules and social norms surrounding dating and sex in your community? Should a cuckold feel shame about it?
I'm liberal, and I've always hung about with the gay and queer scene. I'm boringly straight as an arrow (and a man). And I've always had zero hang-ups about my body or sex. I think it's the result of my parents being hippies. As a child I got exposed to naked bodies and adult sexuality (in the best possible way). So when it became my turn to have sex I was well prepared.
I should also add that all my long-term relationships have at some point or another been open. I'm much too confident and secure in myself to feel threatened by other men. If my girlfriend leaves me for a lover, then I guess she didn't love me anyway and it's all for the best. And I off course enjoy sleeping with other women than my girlfriend. Me being in love has never prevented that.
So this whole worry about unfaithfulness and cuckoldry just strikes me as odd. To me we're sometimes less or more interested in sex. Both people in a relationship won't have the same sexual appetites. It's just natural and normal for the person who is more horny to find fulfillment elsewhere, just to satiate the sexual need. Nothing kills the relationship faster than sexual death.
I must admit that I have pretty bad grasp of what the norms are around this. I just don't know how normal or odd I am.
So, that's what I'm asking. What is your take on this? What are the rules and social norms surrounding dating and sex in your community? Should a cuckold feel shame about it?