People mistake other people genders. Sex workers have been murdered over it.
The 'trans murder epidemic' is an unsubstantiated claim made by gender cultists to shut other people up.
Also, no sex worker has ever been murdered over their gender. Not once, not ever. A sex worker might have been murdered by a client if the client thought the sex worker was one sex but they turned out to be the other, but this again is part of the 'trans murder epidemic' story that is entirely unsubstantiated.
Is it pro-nouns that bother you? Why must we define sexuality in such a compartmentalized way? It's clearly nuanced. Did you not know any effeminate males in school?
You asked this of Emily and not me, but I will answer with my experience.
Not only did I know the effeminate males at school,
I was one of them. Nobody that I knew in high school, including in my friend group, was 'out', but it just happened to turn out that my friend group turned out to have three homos and two bisexuals.
But not any one of us claimed to be a sex we were not. We were effeminate gayboys. We were not and are not and cannot become women.
Honestly I don't know the answer to the issue of sports, I haven't thought about it enough or sought out enough perspectives to form a well researched opinion - but don't think it's reasonable to disqualify an entire swath of the population (their identity) over it.
Nobody is being disqualified. Trans women simply must compete in the proper sex class for them: they are males and they must compete with other males. They can never not be males; mammals cannot change their sex.
Trans men who are not taking testosterone (a performance enhancing drug) are free to compete in either sex class (as indeed any woman ought be free if she can compete).
I gotta say, I'm having a hard time taking you seriously with the "gender cultists" thing. It doesn't even make sense to the discussion.
I'm not saying there is an epidemic of trans murders, but they do happen and there is certainly people who mistake others gender. I know of the studies that show people are excellent at determining gender, but the same studies show when the usual cues are blurred there can be confusion.
I assume above when you say 'gender', you mean 'sex'. People are good at determining the sex of others during brief social encounters, despite the gender cultist insistence that the only way to know somebody's sex is to 'look in their pants'. Gender cultists are obsessed with genitals and will bring them up at any opportunity.
Do you think it's ok to treat a man, who identifies as a women, as a women in a regular social setting?
I'm not sure what you have in mind here. I generally treat men and women similarly in 'regular' social settings. What do you mean more specifically? I generally expect more of males in terms of physical strength, so I'd expect men to help move a couch but not women, though that hardly counts as social.
Do you call a person born as a male but who presents as a woman by their preferred pronoun?
It depends. I will
under no circumstances use a neopronoun (xe/xim, bug/bugself, etc) of any kind, not even for a friend. I would end a friendship if I discovered one of my friends had become such an insufferable narcissist.
I will under no circumstances use
mixed vanity pronoun combinations like 'she/they'. If you see 'she/they' in somebody's email signature, be prepared for the gender cultist who demanded them to be
monitoring your she/they ratio. Such a person is likely to be an obvious female and even obviously feminine-presenting, and if you just naturally use 'she' all the time because of that, she will notice and object.
I might, as a polite fiction, use 'they', or the opposite sex-pronoun 'he' or 'she', where somebody has asked for it and while I am in front of them.
I will also never ever specify my 'preferred' pronouns, and if challenged I will reply "I do not believe in your religion". I am a 6'8" man. I am unmistakeably male. I have a baritone-bass voice that even Elizabeth Holmes would envy. If you cannot figure out my sex, you have bigger problems than accidentally "misgendering" me (which you can't do, because I don't have a gender identity).
Is a “gender cultist” a person who accepts the choice of others decide how they want to present socially?
A gender cultist is somebody who displays most or all of the following (not an exhaustive list)
- Believes that, where society has separated people by sex, we can instead separate them by 'gender identity', and any debate about separating by gender identity instead of sex is labelled as hateful and transphobic
- Uses people with differences of sexual development as pawns to illustrate that sex is 'fuzzy', and then the gender cultists pretend that we've (by 'we' I mean people who are not gender cultists) agreed and that it implies this means we should jettison sex class and substitute 'gender identity' class for it (which is even fuzzier)
- Believes that sexual orientation is based on 'gender identity' and not sex, and that not being attracted to trans men (for example) makes you a transphobe. Also, wanting your male sexual partner to have a penis is transphobic and also a genital fetish (but they're not kink-shaming you, honest).
- Hijack (or, where institutional capture has already occurred, simply use the captured institution) International Women's Day to talk solely about trans women, who are men
- Cannot or will not define the term 'woman' (at least, non-circularly) and say 'I am not going down that rabbit hole' when challenged to define the term
- Believes in literal miracles like that mammals can change sex
- Endorses the wholesale manufacture of memory-holes and State-aided lying, such as the retroactive altering of official documents such as birth certificates so that these birth certificates now contain the wrong sex of a person as a deliberate lie
- Believes people were assigned a gender at birth, instead of what actually happened, which was that your sex was observed and recorded.
- Believe that most people cannot ascertain the sex of a person by sight, or without 'genital inspection' (which they bring up unprompted and endlessly). They are of course completely wrong, since referring to somebody's sex instead of their 'gender' is where all cases of 'misgendering' happen
- Believe that 'dead naming' and 'misgendering' led to hate and violence but are also already literal violence
- Endorse the de-personing language of 'cervix-havers' and 'birthing parents', reducing women to their body parts, a degradation of language that does not happen nearly as much to men (though indeed men are sometimes called 'prostate owners')
- Record the crimes of any man who says he is a woman as a crime perpetrated by a woman
- Pretend that circulating testosterone is the only relevant physical difference between men and women in sports (and some go further to say there are no relevant differences; sport should be entirely separated by gender identity and nothing else)
- Endorse a 26 year old male who, when he was 17, raped a 10 year old girl, being housed in a juvenile female prison
- Believe and promote the idea that there is an epidemic of trans murder victims, but never produce any statistics to back this up
- Endorse the mutilation of children's bodies, most especially the double mastectomies of teenage girls
- Believe that three year olds know their own gender identity. The same three year olds who say 'I am a horse' and neigh at you
- Are casually culturally imperialist with their English-language demands, are casually ableist with their pronoun demands
- Use a combination of the State (via State punishment and laws) and widespread social censure to 'check the thinking' of people who do not believe their religion and who dare to utter things they do believe that is contra gender cultist dogma.
The above list is not exhaustive, as I said, but it's a good start.