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If you sincerely don't think something (like abortion) is wrong when you're alive why do you suddenly change your mind after you're dead?
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His love is like His honesty - unconditional.
All sins are essentially acts of stupidly because they harm us not God.
God's laws aren't for God's benefit they are for OUR benefit.
Now ask yourself the same question. If we hate God and make it clear we don't want to be in His Kingdom - not love Him back - then is that not ultimately a pretty stupid/stubborn thing to do?
Nowhere in the bible will you find God promising such unconditional love that He will never punish unrepentant sinners.
As a Christian I found the prospect of a Hell where some people I loved dearly would suffer for all eternity to be a bit disturbing. How could I be happy in Heaven, all the time knowing these people were suffering in Hell? These people were good, but they weren't
Christian. I tried to convince myself that once I died and was resurrected I would understand and embrace this set of circumstances.
As an example, I had a dear friend who in his younger days got married to a girl he had only known for a month or so. As it turned out their marriage was short-lived. After he'd had time to grow up a bit he married someone else and started a family. He had grown into a good father, repentant of the wild oats he'd spent in his younger days and wishing to raise his two girls "right." Being seeped in southern tradition he believed that meant taking them to church.
So he approached me. I was a young preacher in the church of Christ, but also someone he had known from his youth, and someone he felt he could trust. "What must I do to become a Christian?"
Admittedly the church of Christ is a bit more conservative than some denominations when it comes to adherence to the letter of the law (the Bible). I asked him about his earlier marriage. "Was she unfaithful to you?"
"Not that I know of. We were at each other's throats. Neither of us were ready for the kind of commitment we'd gotten into. We divorced for irreconcilable differences. The divorce wasn't even ugly, we just went our separate ways."
Enter Matthew 19:1-9. "He that shall put away his wife and marry another, except for adultery, commits adultery. And he who marries her who is put away commits adultery." Several times in the Bible Paul is very clear that adulterers have no place among the faithful.
Sadly I informed my friend that he could not become a Christian until he repented of his sin of adultery. He was unlawfully (in the eyes of God) married to this woman and could no longer remain married to her if he wanted to become a Christian.
It was too high a price to pay. Fortunately he didn't heed my advice and break up his fledgling family over this oppressive Bible passage. Instead found a less conservative church to join.
As for me, I knew that his sin was an ongoing one of which he was unwilling to repent. Finding others willing to coddle him in it wasn't a substitute for repentance. I rued the fact that this otherwise good man would end up suffering for all eternity in Hell simply because he chose the more noble calling of being a good father and husband.
So when you say that God's laws are for OUR benefit, I have to wonder: What harm was being incurred by this 2nd marriage apart from pissing off the Big Guy? What good would have come from breaking up the home so that the children had parents who lived separately from each other?