I realize Stanford isn't forcing this on us, but I find it to be patronizing ( oh no, what about the women ) and an opportunity to give more ammunition to the far right extremists
Whereas posting outraged nonsense on the internet about half-remembered news stories the rightwing media cooked up years ago in no way plays into their hands? These people are playing for keeps, you know.
Tell me, what's the worst thing that could happen to you if "going off the rails" became an unpopular phrase? Answer: somone might think you were were rude for using it. And do nothing more about it.
That's not oppression. You often speak proudly of your many black friends, why not ask some of them what oppression feels like, and the wicked tools it uses? I am certain that they will
not reply "sometimes people think I'm rude when I didn't mean to be".
I have no idea what you're trying to say and for your information, I have discussed racism and oppression with some of my Black friends. My closest one denies ever being a victim of racism, although I imagine there were probably times when she didn't realize she was being treated differently because of her race. And, what does racism have to do with most of the language on that list? Having black friends isn't a pride thing, I just happen to live in a Black majority town so I've had the opportunity to make friends with people who are Black. I grew up in an all white neighborhood, and while there were many immigrant families in my area, there were no Black families in my area. I hated that. IBesides that, I've always admired Black culture and the strength of Black women. It's more of a humbling experience than a prideful one to get to know people who have have different cultural experiences and may have been victims of racism. Btw, when I worked in ATL, a couple of the Black supervisors were always pulling the race card on my white supervisor. They accused her of racism, whenever our QA staff found an issue that needed to be addressed. That shocked me, as my supervisor never said or acted in a racist manner. We found plenty of errors made by white nurses too. It was our job to point out mistakes and documentation errors. I was told by one very friendly Black supervisor that I should never have believed the MLK bullshit, so yeah. I've discussed all kinds of things with my Black peers and friends. But, that has nothing to do with the silliness of that list.
Women, regardless of the color of our skin, have probably all been victims of sexism. I know I have. We've been hit on well into old age, by men. We've been raped or threatened with rape, but that has nothing to do with the words on that list, imo. "Actions speak louder than words." Being referred to as a guy isn't going to hurt me or anyone else. Even my parrot calls me a guy. When ever I enter the room she says, "Hi guy".
With very few exceptions, I don't use any of the words or phrases on that list, but I'm not going to judge anyone who does. There are some very hurtful words that aren't on the list. Sometimes people are very ignorant, like the person who worked at Purdue who is now under constant fire for doing something very stupid. Don't you believe that forgiveness is often a good thing if someone didn't realize they were being insulting without realizing it? Do you judge people for the dumb things they say?
While no words can hurt me, I'm very careful not to use words that I think might hurt someone else. I realize that some people are a lot more sensitive than I am, but there are limits to how far we need to go when it comes to worrying about the overly "woke" who, imo, are giving lots of ammunition to those on the far right. I would prefer that we just treat each other with kindness and stop worrying about every little word that is spoken.