No, I don’t, because social change does not require unanimous approval.
You still don’t get it. Each one of your “specific” questions presumes independence from the other changes.
You still haven't bothered to elaborate on any of them at all.
Frankly, if you don’t grasp the fundamental issue that as a general rule, men and women are different in many ways (otherwise why bother trying to change one’s gender), then discussion is futile. But I think you do get there are differences beyond gametes and body parts.
Males and females are different in many ways, yes. The vast majority of those differences are sex-linked. The differences are driven by the differences in our bodies, and our bodies are a whole lot more different than you seem to acknowledge. Sex is
defined by the type of reproductive system we have; that doesn't mean that our reproductive systems are the only differences. But those other differences are not
sex. We have a plethora of physical differences, which I very kindly posted up thread... and which everyone seems to have ignored and are pretending they don't exist.
There are also some behavioral tendencies that differ between males and females of the human species. Many of those tendencies are shared with other mammals as well, although they're not universal by any means. Generally speaking, males tend to be more aggressive, have a stronger fight response than flight response, are more prone to respond to conflict situations with anger, and tend to gravitate toward play/hobbies/work that involves physical manipulation of the world around them, and have a higher risk tolerance. Generally speaking, females are less aggressive, have a stronger flight response as well as a much more pronounces freeze response, are more prone to respond to conflict situations with conciliatory actions and tears, tend to gravitate toward play/hobbies/work that involves care-gicing and nurturing, and have a lower risk appetite. But those are correlated tendencies, and they show an extremely wide range of deviation for each sex. Abstractly speaking, they have means that are statistically different, but have extremely large variance around those means. They error bounds on each of those tendencies is wide enough to make those behavioral tendencies non-predictive. You can't be provided a set of behavioral characteristics for a person and predict their sex with a reasonable degree of accuracy. Furthermore, a whole lot of the behavioral differences that humans exhibit are learned behaviors, picked up in early childhood and reinforced throughout our lives. Boys are rewarded for being rambunctious, curious, having opinions, speaking up, and competing. Girls are rewarded for being docile, quiet, compliant, and meek.
To the extent that we have emotional differences, hormones are a bitch. Some of our emotional differences are culturally instilled (boys don't cry, girls don't yell). But a whole lot of it is testosterone and estrogen. Testosterone is a steroid, and it increases aggression and anger; estrogen increases emotional lability. But again, those aren't proscriptive. An angry and aggressive woman isn't part-male. A sensitive and highly empathetic man who cries a lot isn't part-female. Exogenously altering someone's hormones can change some of their emotional responses to a degree - but it still doesn't make them the opposite sex in any way.
The fact you routinely dismiss the dilemma for the sincere trangender people as “feelings” but use fear (which is a feeling) to justify a unsympathetic social policy suggest to me that it is some trans revulsion that drives these responses.
Meh. I'm tired of being called names, told I'm a bigot, called a nazi, and otherwise demeaned and harassed, so I'm not as dedicated to being super obsequiously polite all the time. My interlocutors seem to have no requirement to be nice, and frankly I'm done with playing the nice girl.
Gender identity is literally a feeling - it's a subjective and unverifiable feeling inside someone's head that does not have any material reality. Sex is an objective reality. And whether you wish to consider it or not, women - female women - are victims of sexual crimes at rates that absolutely eclipse what men experience. And 99% of the time, it's men who commit those crimes against us. Women have extremely well-founded reasons to fear strange males in places where we're naked or vulnerable.
You think it's sympathetic to want to accommodate transgender identified males - and it is sympathetic. But that sympathy toward a subset of men who have gender identity issue is at the expense of women, toward whom many of the posters in this thread have expressed zero sympathy whatsoever. It is not acceptable to me, nor to a great many women, to write policy that grants some men access-by-right to places where women are naked. It creates a situation where women lose the right to say no, the right to enforce our boundaries, the right to not be subjected to voyeurism, the right to not be subjected to exhibitionism. If there were actually some reasonable and practicable way to actually tell which males are "genuine transwoman" and which are not, you might be able to make a good case. But the reality is that there is no way to tell. So when you advocate for and support policies that give transgender identified males access to female sex-specific spaces, you are in effect giving access to any and all men who want to use them. You are removing the right of women to say no, and you're forcing us to be subservient to any man who wishes to be there.
And that demonstrates a profound lack of sympathy toward actual women.
A person walks into a restroom designated for women. One user feels the person doesn’t belong but the person in question behaves appropriately. What response and outcome do you envision? I think no response is the best because nothing will happen.
Suppose the individual acts inappropriately, what response and outcome do you envision?
Depending on the behavior in question, I envision either polite inquiries or a call to the authorities.
Does the person at least somewhat look like they could feasibly be a female human? Or does the person look entirely like a completely normal male?
More to the point: Do you believe that female humans should have no right to deny males the right to be in intimate spaces with us against our will?
If this were 15 years ago, I'd be with you on the polite inquiry vs authorities bit. That's where I started. And if I could be extremely certain that it were limited exclusively and only to bathrooms... I might still be willing to make do. But that's not what has developed, and I'm no longer willing to give ground. What used to work very well no longer works. It used to be understood that women's spaces were for female human beings, that we had the authority to evict men who ventured in if we wished to. And knowing that we had that authority, we were willing to make accommodations, to turn a blind eye, and to be gracious toward periodic and respectful exceptions. That included the occasional situation where a man needed to help his wife/daughter/grandma/etc. in the restroom. It included when a woman brought their son in who was really probably too old and a bit too curious about women's bodies... but we understood that leaving them alone outside might not be a reasonable option. And it also included the occasional transsexual who behaved appropriately.
But over the past decade or so, the boundaries have been pushed so far, and so egregiously, that I don't think we can go back. It would be really nice if we could, but I don't think it's possible.