California Doing California Things

[Emily Lake]

My introverted kids could have cared less about being grounded. Send me to my room where my books and lego are? Yipee! My extroverted kids felt that being grounded for an afternoon was akin to being drawn and quartered.

Me. My sister. My poor parents, grounding just wasn't a punishment. At one point my mom lamented that they can't very well take away books and paper as punishment for me. On the plus side... I was never really bad in the first place so I didn't get grounded much.

 

[WAB]

My introverted kids could have cared less about being grounded. Send me to my room where my books and lego are? Yipee! My extroverted kids felt that being grounded for an afternoon was akin to being drawn and quartered.

Me. My sister. My poor parents, grounding just wasn't a punishment. At one point my mom lamented that they can't very well take away books and paper as punishment for me. On the plus side... I was never really bad in the first place so I didn't get grounded much.

I remember that as a very small sprout, the teacher would "punish" the glass by denying us recess outside. "We're turning the lights off and you'll all put your heads down on your desks for a half-hour!"

Oh gosh, oh golly, no, please no...please...(*yawn*)...no...

 

[Toni]

My introverted kids could have cared less about being grounded. Send me to my room where my books and lego are? Yipee! My extroverted kids felt that being grounded for an afternoon was akin to being drawn and quartered.

Me. My sister. My poor parents, grounding just wasn't a punishment. At one point my mom lamented that they can't very well take away books and paper as punishment for me. On the plus side... I was never really bad in the first place so I didn't get grounded much.

I remember that as a very small sprout, the teacher would "punish" the glass by denying us recess outside. "We're turning the lights off and you'll all put your heads down on your desks for a half-hour!"

Oh gosh, oh golly, no, please no...please...(*yawn*)...no...

I always detested group punishment further the bad behavior of a few.

 

[thebeave]

My introverted kids could have cared less about being grounded. Send me to my room where my books and lego are? Yipee! My extroverted kids felt that being grounded for an afternoon was akin to being drawn and quartered.

Me. My sister. My poor parents, grounding just wasn't a punishment. At one point my mom lamented that they can't very well take away books and paper as punishment for me. On the plus side... I was never really bad in the first place so I didn't get grounded much.

I remember that as a very small sprout, the teacher would "punish" the glass by denying us recess outside. "We're turning the lights off and you'll all put your heads down on your desks for a half-hour!"

Oh gosh, oh golly, no, please no...please...(*yawn*)...no...

My favorite "punishment" story is when Captain Kirk restricted Scotty to quarters for starting the bar fight with the Klingons. Actually, the best scene of the episode, IMHO. Scotty is such a lovable nerd:

 

[Tigers!]

Why do you actually care what someone on the internet thinks of you?

Because I think it is entirely unjust that some people be expected to tolerate bullying just because it makes the bully unhappy to be called out for their poor behavior.

And these are mostly guys we’re arguing with and they grow up insulting each other a lot worse than anything I’ve seen here.

Excusing their behavior because they're men doesn't really work for me. Boys also tend to be more aggressive and violent than girls, but that doesn't mean we should tolerate wife beating because of it.

If you think someone is being insulting, it’s better to ignore it or call it out for what it is and then to just make your points . You can’t change other people. Let the pigs wallow. Don’t climb down in the mud.

You know the fastest way to teach a kitten not to bite your hand? Bite their ear when they do. Not hard enough to draw blood, not hard enough to cause serious damage. Just enough to hurt and get their attention.

Being patient hasn't been effective. Being polite and employing reason and civil argument hasn't produced a change in behavior. Perhaps being subjected to the same kind of invective they feel empowered to dish out will remind them of the golden rule. It might not, and I'm aware of that. That's fine.

It is now entirely their choice how we interact. Treat me with civility and they will receive the same. Treat me with contempt and they will receive the same. I won't instigate it, but I also won't tolerate it meekly and subserviently.

My mother told me she stopped me biting by biting me back. So when my oldest got to that age, with great trepidation, I but him back.

It works. That is how my mother stopped my eldest sister (but younger than me) from biting her siblings.
Mind you it was in a doctor's surgery and the surgery was full......
It was 1969 Australia. Nobody batted an eyelid.
Try that these days and the police would be there in 37 secs.

Well, in your opinion, it worked in your family. My experience was quite different. I also figured out that different kids responded differently to different types of punishment. My introverted kids could have cared less about being grounded. Send me to my room where my books and lego are? Yipee! My extroverted kids felt that being grounded for an afternoon was akin to being drawn and quartered.

Of course kids are different. A very wise parent will know the best way to shock/awe their child.
Worked with my sister. Would not have worked with our brother.

 

[Tigers!]

My introverted kids could have cared less about being grounded. Send me to my room where my books and lego are? Yipee! My extroverted kids felt that being grounded for an afternoon was akin to being drawn and quartered.

Me. My sister. My poor parents, grounding just wasn't a punishment. At one point my mom lamented that they can't very well take away books and paper as punishment for me. On the plus side... I was never really bad in the first place so I didn't get grounded much.

Show off.

My parents were surprised I made it to 16, they thought either the circus, the gyspies or the plods would have taken me by then.

 

[Patooka]

My introverted kids could have cared less about being grounded. Send me to my room where my books and lego are? Yipee! My extroverted kids felt that being grounded for an afternoon was akin to being drawn and quartered.

Me. My sister. My poor parents, grounding just wasn't a punishment. At one point my mom lamented that they can't very well take away books and paper as punishment for me. On the plus side... I was never really bad in the first place so I didn't get grounded much.

I remember that as a very small sprout, the teacher would "punish" the glass by denying us recess outside. "We're turning the lights off and you'll all put your heads down on your desks for a half-hour!"

Oh gosh, oh golly, no, please no...please...(*yawn*)...no...

My favorite "punishment" story is when Captain Kirk restricted Scotty to quarters for starting the bar fight with the Klingons. Actually, the best scene of the episode, IMHO. Scotty is such a lovable nerd:

The thing is, we all know Chief O'Brien threw the first punch.

And don't ever fucking call the 1701 a garbage scow.