4321lynx
Veteran Member
SLD,
To answer your question about why I feel this way, the truth is IDK. Personally, I have found someone who cares for me, nurtured me, and at times, provides for me. We are a partnership.
In days of old, perhaps a woman as only looking for someone to look after her. Times are changing. Society is changing. Our society is anyway.
Some American Indian cultures, I believe, were as you describe as your 'desire' and they would fornicate willy nilly with any offspring recognised as the husbands or mothers brothers responsibility.
For me, I guess it's how I was raised.
I just don't know.
I don't know about American Indians (Or First Peoples as we call them in the civilised part of North America). But it seems to have been the case in Tahiti, Bora Bora etc.
And certainly in the Central African tribes the offspring of a woman were supervised by her eldest brother, and her wellbeing and her offspring's wellbeing were looked after by him too for the excellent reason that she was the mother, but who knows who their father could have been His role was that of a protector in addition to her husband, and also to protect her from that husband when necessary. This may still apply in the villages there, where the purpose of marriage, as for millions of years past, was to raise children, hopefully and preferably predominantly male children. The most desirable young woman for a wife then was a divorced mother of one or more male children, divorced through no fault of hers, and proving she could bear children, and male children at that, and not die in the labour of giving birth.
We of course know "better" about the purposes of marriage, which explains the divorce rate, the falling birth rate, and the "need" or desirability of massive immigration into "Western" societies. But the "ladies" have their careers, they have their fun, and their trophy one infant or so born late in mother's life. And all their, and the world's, problems can be blamed on Old White Men, paternalism, colonialism, imperialism, etc, etc. And obviously the failures of modern marriages are the fault of unfeeling men doing unthinkable things like going to sleep after sex, going hunting and fishing together, and leaving the toilet seat up.