J842P
Veteran Member
No, but I am short and unassuming.
One time a lady I knew very well was wearing a very pretty necklace. I complimented the necklace and said it was very pretty and she gasped for air when I told her. The only thing I could think of is she thought I was checking out her rack, but she was covered from the neck down and do not really show any form. Her necklace was pretty with its medallion and all.
I find it's best to just ignore women in public. Instead of smiling and nodding in passing in a silent "good morning", I turn away and just walk past them like they weren't there.
Thread: Men - Have you felt a woman's fear?
Imagine being the woman. She's not judged as dangerous because of her sex. She's judged as prey--at least by the wrong kind of guy.
And it's impossible to know who is the 'wrong kind of guy.' Not by looking.
Some guys will see her as prey.
Prey.
Wrap your heads around that a bit. Or try to.
You have no idea what it is like to think you have no reason to not trust, or to fear someone--and then to find out you are very wrong.
Imagine being the woman. She's not judged as dangerous because of her sex. She's judged as prey--at least by the wrong kind of guy.
And it's impossible to know who is the 'wrong kind of guy.' Not by looking.
Some guys will see her as prey.
Prey.
Wrap your heads around that a bit. Or try to.
You have no idea what it is like to think you have no reason to not trust, or to fear someone--and then to find out you are very wrong.
It's amazing to me that you think men have no consciousness of the potential danger of other men. It's as if you've never even tried to put yourself in the shoes of a typical male human being. Because apparently you seem to think men go through life without even considering the chance of being the victim of the violent tendencies of predator males.
The truth is that males are much more likely to be the victims of aggravated assault and murder. Every male knows and understands the violent potential of other males. It is part and parcel of the male experience.
And of course men understand what you are talking about. In any given gathering that is large enough (especially if it includes alcohol), there is always at least a couple of assholes itching to start a fight over things like being bumped into, looking them in the eyes too long, or just being there breathing their air.
Or yes, thinking that you are going after "their girl".
The only difference is that the chances of other males intervening to stop the psycho are much, much lower if that psycho is victimizing another male.
I am unaware of any time any man has been robbed, beaten or assaulted when he was blamed for not being careful about where he walked, how much he drank, what he wore, etc.
This is why women make excellent police officers: they assume all men are dangerous, not just black guys.
And truly, I am very sorry that some men's feelings are hurt because women...cross the street...
And truly, I am very sorry that some men's feelings are hurt because women...cross the street...
I didn't say that my feelings were hurt because a women crossed a street to avoid being with 25 yards of me. I said I felt sorry for her, sorry that she would have to live with such fear of a harmless stranger.
Twizzle said much the same thing. The OP's question was, "Have you felt a woman's fear?" It was not, "Have you felt a woman's fear and then got your feelings hurt because of it?"
1 in 5 women have experienced some form of sexual assault in their lives. That means that pretty much every woman has either experienced such things directly, or knows someone who has. I imagine women feel it far more often than we men are aware of it.
In that there are at least 1 in 5 women that probably experience it quite frequently in public, but probably a very low percentage of men who are aware of a woman being fearful of us in a specific incidence. I'll be honest, I can't think of a single time that I was aware of a woman being fearful of me in that way in public, but that must have happened many times given the statistics.