The heartbreaking reality of a teenage girl's sex life

[TSwizzle]

Young girls face the consequences of young men's unfettered access to hardcore porn;

We discovered that alarming numbers of girls are pressured into highly explicit acts. The results of our poll of 2,000 young people aged 16 to 21, which was carried out by Survation, uncovers the shocking toll of porn culture in our schools. We wanted to see how easy access to thousands of online clips showing brutal, dehumanised sex was affecting our young men and women and their attitudes to romance, intimacy and consent. Our statistics are backed up by a damning new Ofsted report which found that nine out of ten girls experience sexist name-calling and are sent unwanted explicit pictures in school. And our survey revealed further disturbing facts — for not only do girls often have to run a daily gauntlet of sexist and misogynistic behaviour, but the way they first experience intimate acts has utterly changed in just a generation.

DailyMail

 

[Politesse]

Heterosexuality should be outlawed.

 

[rousseau]

I'm of the perspective that most porn is fairly benign, but I do agree that almost all of it is misleading about how to actually carry out the act properly. I'm not sure what the answer to the problem looks like, how to have sex properly is a taboo topic for most people.

Unfortunately, young women likely bear the brunt of the problem. I'd assume a lot of men figure it out eventually, or just end up single.

 

[TSwizzle]

I'm of the perspective that most porn is fairly benign, but I do agree that almost all of it is misleading about how to actually carry out the act properly. I'm not sure what the answer to the problem looks like, how to have sex properly is a taboo topic for most people.

Taboo ? I'm not sure that it is taboo when sex or sexual images are everywhere. I think it's an "awkward" topic at best these days. I don't know the answer either.

Unfortunately, young women likely bear the brunt of the problem. I'd assume a lot of men figure it out eventually, or just end up single.

It's probably not just young women. I have a female work colleague who I am pretty good friends with and is single. Her stories about dating are tragic. An ex girlfriend of mine tells me similar stories about how sexually demanding men are.

 

[Tigers!]

Young girls face the consequences of young men's unfettered access to hardcore porn;

We discovered that alarming numbers of girls are pressured into highly explicit acts. The results of our poll of 2,000 young people aged 16 to 21, which was carried out by Survation, uncovers the shocking toll of porn culture in our schools. We wanted to see how easy access to thousands of online clips showing brutal, dehumanised sex was affecting our young men and women and their attitudes to romance, intimacy and consent. Our statistics are backed up by a damning new Ofsted report which found that nine out of ten girls experience sexist name-calling and are sent unwanted explicit pictures in school. And our survey revealed further disturbing facts — for not only do girls often have to run a daily gauntlet of sexist and misogynistic behaviour, but the way they first experience intimate acts has utterly changed in just a generation.

DailyMail

And in more unexpected news water is wet.

 

[Tigers!]

Heterosexuality should be outlawed.

Tongue in cheek?

 

[Toni]

Interesting. I would not have predicted that TSwizzle would show the most empathy.

OTOH, I am not at all surprised that no one has suggested that boys need to be taught that girls have feelings and rights and the right to be not interested and in and out right objecting to being raped.

What’s up with the shoulder shrug response to the rather horrible harassment and worse foisted on some pretty young girls?

 

[Politesse]

Heterosexuality should be outlawed.

Tongue in cheek?

Oh, I guess. But you must admit, a temporary ban would do wonders for women's rights. Male-female relationships sound incredibly violent and dangerous these days, just on the basis of the daily news.

 

[Loren Pechtel]

The problem here is not porn, but the lack of any decent reference as to what sex should be like. This is a sex ed failure.

 

[Emily Lake]

Heterosexuality should be outlawed.

Or... I dunno... maybe teach young men to not be complete assholes about dating, and stop brainwashing children into believing that anal sex, breath play, s&m, bondage, and violence are "normal" sex? Why is it so hard to just fucking keep sex-ed to health and consent topics, instead of trying to inculcate children - especially female children - into being sexual objects and bimbos for the enjoyment of over-pornified boys?

 

[Emily Lake]

Interesting. I would not have predicted that TSwizzle would show the most empathy.

OTOH, I am not at all surprised that no one has suggested that boys need to be taught that girls have feelings and rights and the right to be not interested and in and out right objecting to being raped.

What’s up with the shoulder shrug response to the rather horrible harassment and worse foisted on some pretty young girls?

Seriously. I swear the world is far more misogynistic and oppressive toward women today than when I was a kid 40 years ago.

 

[Emily Lake]

Heterosexuality should be outlawed.

Tongue in cheek?

Oh, I guess. But you must admit, a temporary ban would do wonders for women's rights. Male-female relationships sound incredibly violent and dangerous these days, just on the basis of the daily news.

Are you being serious or are you mocking?

I can't tell, and I'm currently angry at you from another thread, so I don't want to make an assumption about your intended tone.

 

[Toni]

Heterosexuality should be outlawed.

Genuine question: Do gay teenage boys pressure other gay boys into doing sexual acts they’ve seen in porn? I’m talking high school age and younger? Is consent as blurry?

 

[Toni]

Interesting. I would not have predicted that TSwizzle would show the most empathy.

OTOH, I am not at all surprised that no one has suggested that boys need to be taught that girls have feelings and rights and the right to be not interested and in and out right objecting to being raped.

What’s up with the shoulder shrug response to the rather horrible harassment and worse foisted on some pretty young girls?

Seriously. I swear the world is far more misogynistic and oppressive toward women today than when I was a kid 40 years ago.

I’m older than you, i believe, and I disagree somewhat. I think that these days, there are fewer social prohibitions about explicitly and publicly calling women and girls vulgar names, or vulgar terms for body parts. Porn is much more ubiquitous now and available very readily to anyone who has access to the internet. Unfortunately, kids are not well able to discern what is real and what is not on screens.

 

[Politesse]

Heterosexuality should be outlawed.

Genuine question: Do gay teenage boys pressure other gay boys into doing sexual acts they’ve seen in porn? I’m talking high school age and younger? Is consent as blurry?

I've no idea, really. When I was a teenager, coming out of the closet was risking death in short order. I can testify that the young people I know now have very dubious understandings of "consent".

 

[Tigers!]

Heterosexuality should be outlawed.

Or... I dunno... maybe teach young men to not be complete assholes about dating, and stop brainwashing children into believing that anal sex, breath play, s&m, bondage, and violence are "normal" sex? Why is it so hard to just fucking keep sex-ed to health and consent topics, instead of trying to inculcate children - especially female children - into being sexual objects and bimbos for the enjoyment of over-pornified boys?

Not asking for much are you?

 

[Toni]

Heterosexuality should be outlawed.

Or... I dunno... maybe teach young men to not be complete assholes about dating, and stop brainwashing children into believing that anal sex, breath play, s&m, bondage, and violence are "normal" sex? Why is it so hard to just fucking keep sex-ed to health and consent topics, instead of trying to inculcate children - especially female children - into being sexual objects and bimbos for the enjoyment of over-pornified boys?

Not asking for much are you?

Sounds like common decency to me. Is that too much?

 

[Politesse]

Or... I dunno... maybe teach young men to not be complete assholes about dating, and stop brainwashing children into believing that anal sex, breath play, s&m, bondage, and violence are "normal" sex?

Sex education programs barely exist in the United States, at present. I don't think that's where kids learn about S & M, though. It would be better if they did, given that lessons about consent, rights, and safety would presumably also be covered. When kids only have porn and/or the Bible for a tutor, it isn't.

 

[Toni]

Or... I dunno... maybe teach young men to not be complete assholes about dating, and stop brainwashing children into believing that anal sex, breath play, s&m, bondage, and violence are "normal" sex?

Sex education programs barely exist in the United States, at present. I don't think that's where kids learn about S & M, though. It would be better if they did, given that lessons about consent, rights, and safety would presumably also be covered. When kids only have porn and/or the Bible for a tutor, it isn't.

Those are not the only options available, even if there is not decent sex education in schools. Parents can talk to their kids, although the kids generally prefer that they not, even more than the parents prefer not. Most important parts of sex education are at home, with how people treat one another—how affection, love, respect and even anger. Then there is the whole biology parts.

 

[Politesse]

Or... I dunno... maybe teach young men to not be complete assholes about dating, and stop brainwashing children into believing that anal sex, breath play, s&m, bondage, and violence are "normal" sex?

Sex education programs barely exist in the United States, at present. I don't think that's where kids learn about S & M, though. It would be better if they did, given that lessons about consent, rights, and safety would presumably also be covered. When kids only have porn and/or the Bible for a tutor, it isn't.

Those are not the only options available, even if there is not decent sex education in schools. Parents can talk to their kids, although the kids generally prefer that they not, even more than the parents prefer not. Most important parts of sex education are at home, with how people treat one another—how affection, love, respect and even anger. Then there is the whole biology parts.

This is something sorely lacking, and I believe it is rapidly becoming an intergenerational problem. Parents don't know what to say to their children, becuase precious little was ever taught to them either.