The thing that girls and women need to learn is how to stand up to bullies.
Yeah, all those women who are sexually assaulted and raped every year, they just need to learn how to stand up to their attackers. It's their own fault for not being strong enough.
I never said it was their fault. I said that all of us women need to learn how to stand up to bullies because in the majority of cases it weakens the bully and stop his aggression. Look at Trump for example. All of those who have stood up to him are doing better compared to those who gave in to his demands. Once you give in to a bully, they want more and more and more. I wan't only talking about sexual assault. I was talking about all kinds of bullying. My late father never tried to sexually assault his daughters, but he was a bully and I'm the one who stood up to him and told him off. It worked. It worked when I shamed the man who threatened to rape me. It worked when I've told nasty doctors off etc. It might not always work, but it's the best defense we women have, so we can at least learn or train ourselves to do that. We can also take self defense courses. I've never done that but one is offered at our senior center. There are many things women can to do to help us stay safe.
I recall when one of my female high school teachers told us that the one thing a bad man is afraid of is a bad woman. She told us how she had scared off a man who had threatened to assault her. I don't remember all of the details as I was in high school in the mid 60s, but what she told us had a lot of truth in it.
No offense Emily, but you often have a way of misinterpreting what another posters writes. Of course, it's never the woman's fault if someone attacks her. I'm just encouraging us all to learn how to ward off the bullies, as it usually works. I'll leave it at that.
Not everyone is strong or brave. There are plenty of people who will not want to further antagonize their bully or attacker for fear that any kind of aggressive resistance will serve to incur greater harm. I extend my sympathies especially to a victim of sexual assault and/or rape, and even more especially to women, who are typically not as physically strong as a man. I can easily understand them not resisting to any great extent, for fear of severe injury, or death.
I can see why, ideally speaking, it's good advice to suggest that people should stand up to bullies, but realistically, it could also get someone killed.
I am NOT saying that people being abused, assaulted, or raped should just shut up, do nothing, and take it meekly. Just saying people are different in how they react under stress in extreme situations.