No one has suggested that anyone be convicted of anything without proof beyond a reasonable doubt, all legal rights observed, legal counsel provided, etc.
There have been feminists who suggested that the burden of proof should be reversed in rape cases.
This is New Zealand, but still very disturbing:
Accused rapists would have to prove consent in law reversal proposed by New Zealand politicians
And what about being expelled from university? That is a life-changing consequence being meted out with very little evidence or ability of defendant to defend himself. There have been cases where exculpatory evidence, such as communications from the accuser, were ignored - see for example the Vassar case.
I think that (some) men have a pretty vested interest in believing that women lie about rape. Otherwise, they might have to think poorly of some of their buddies or even of themselves.
Some women most definitely lie about rape. The feminist myth that "women don't lie about rape" is the myth of female moral purity and not rooted in reality at all.
Thinking of young adults abd teens, I think that there definitely can be some room for differing perceptions. Certainly judgement can be clouded by growing sexual urgency coupled with lack of general life and sex experience.. it would be lovely to think that couples are deeply in puppy love and heavily invested in their partners well being but honestly, young, inexperienced, flooded with hormones: people do not perceive situations the save way.
But that also means that the female's perception should not be taken as the ultimate standard.
Which underscores the need for enthusiastic consent. A more passive person might withdraw emotionally if they are overwhelmed and reluctant it avoids t and a more dominant person could see acquiescence as consent instead of fear and not knowing what to do to get out if a situation. We’re talking heat if the mom t decisions being made without much actual thought process.
"Enthusiastic consent" can be the ideal to strive toward, but it can nor should it ever be a legal or administrative standard. First, how do you determine sufficient level of "enthusiasm" in a court of law or a college tribunal room? Second, I can think of a plethora of circumstances where one may engage in sex without much enthusiasm, but still completely consensually.
Take couples with differing levels of sex drive. Or take sex workers. The threshold beyond which any administrative or criminal sanction is imposed cannot be a level of "enthusiasm". It can only be consent, given freely, but beyond that without regard as to why it was given.
But certainly there are those, mostl y males, who feel entitled. They are under the impression that masculine means in charge Abd taking what they want, abd ridiculing any who disagree. Abd some are mean fucks who have a violent streak. Throw in easy access to a lot of porn Abd sexually violent t video games.
What evidence is there that porn or "video games" increases the danger of somebody raping someone?
Of course the same scenarios existed 50 years ago and more minis such easy access to porn and violent video games.
There was rape back in time without easy access to porn and without GTA video games or such.
Plus the whole: a good girl dresses modestly, smiles but not too much, wants to please, but not too eagerly, doesn’t really want it like sex ( so no need to try to please her) so you gave makes programmed by society to act more aggressively than many might Abd girls being more passive and the norm is that all blame us in the girl/woman who should have known better and probably wanted it.
But if women being more coy and requiring men to pursue is the societal norm (with some biological "priming" no doubt) then we also have to accept a certain amount of forwardness and non-physical aggression. And while decades past may have too forgiving of "boys will be boys" I think our current society is erring in the other direction.
It can be a hard conceit to accept that the object of your attentions may have a different level of arousal or willingness than you do.
May be. But it is also true that arousal and willingness can change over time. A lot of women like being pursued, at least by a guy they find attractive. Of course, it does not justify rape or anything like that, and a "no" must be respected. But it does speak against the nonsense like saying that if she consents to sex at some point in time after saying "no" previously, then it's not really consent because a woman can't change her mind from "no" to "yes", only from "yes" to "no".