Toni
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For my family? My maternal grandfather was disabled in WWI, which further set up his wife and subsequent children for poverty during the Great Depression. The family moved thousands of miles at least twice, looking for a better climate and work. He died when my mom was 10. My grandmother had supported her family scrubbing floors. She later remarried and they lived on a modest farm. All of my uncles on both sides of the family were in the military during the end days of WWII. One uncle did go back and finish high school and get a university degree in the GI bill. Another uncle and 3 of his 4 surviving children lived in poverty his entire life. Another became a postmaster in his tiny town—perhaps aided by his veteran status. His oldest son and one cousin on the other side of the family were in Viet Nam, as snipers. I will never, ever forget the look of dread and panic and shame in his eyes when the menfolk asked him how many gooks* he had killed over there. *. Sorry for the racist pejorative. The work stuck almost as hard as the look in my cousin’s eyes. Both are etched into my brain and I cannot forget or forgive either.They wouldn't have been better. Without the military, the vast majority of my family wouldn't have been able to get any post secondary education, and would still be abysmally poor stuck in a small town. My family also, by the way, would have been significantly less diverse. It was military service that presented exposure to different ethnicities, different beliefs, different cultures. The military is pretty much directly responsible for the majority of my cousins being a lovely shade of ambiguity brown, as well as having respect for people from different cultures and care for people from different economic and social backgrounds.Have you ever thought about how your family would be without the need for military, how their lives would have been different, no doubt better? I would think you would prefer that. My family is four generations military but I sure would have preferred we all had different lives. I think we'd all prefer to have not waged WW2 or any conflict and spent those resources differently, not to mention the loss of life. I think that's what the OP is getting at. Will humans ever get there?FFS, my entire fucking family is military, my husband was fucking deployed! I don't approve of atrocities, and the fact that you can't seem to envision an approach of highly directed aggression that doesn't involve war crimes says a fuck-ton of a lot more about you and your fucked up brain than anything at all about me.
The other cousin ( that cousin was actually my uncle’s stepson) was rebellious before Viet Nam and alcoholic when he came back. My cousins did not have good or easy lives. The alcoholic cousin might have been an alcoholic without Viet Nam. My postmaster uncle might have been a fucking arrogant asshole if he hadn’t been in the Navy. I have no way of knowing. But no, I don’t think being in a war was helpful to those family members.
My son has made a calculated choice to stay in the reserves (after his regular Army service and deployment to Afghanistan) and enjoys the insurance coverage he is able to get through his service and the lower interest rate on his mortgage. I won’t say he got nothing out of his service but I hate the price he paid—and still pays. But his PTSD is mostly resolved.
Seriously, except for the grandfather who died years before I was born, my family members seem to have escaped much physical damage. Psychological? Not quite as lucky, but not disabling.
Those are all personal benefits and costs, sometimes visited on the next generations. My family was extremely fortunate, and I am grateful. Too many lose much, much, much more.
War is evil. Rarely, it is also made necessary by some person/country’s actions. Mostly I think the ‘necessity’ is for profit rather than freedom or some noble ideals.
The worst costs in any armed conflict are born by civilian casualties and damages, including, of course, death, dismemberment, rape, starvation, disease, trauma of all sorts, lives curtailed by violence.
I’m not a fan.