About the only way you can protect yourself is to follow the old adage about not sticking your dick in crazy. However, sometimes crazy doesn't show itself at first. It's certainly impossible to avoid in a casual sex situation.
Well now, there you go. Another important factor is the "don't be a crazy dick." Crazy isn't that hard to spot, if you are paying attention and ask oneself if it's really worth the risk. I don't see the point of making it difficult for a woman to accuse the man who abused her, or took advantage in someway, just to protect men who feel they have the right to sex with a woman because she seemed friendly at time in the evening.
As for crazy, claiming "she's crazy" as a defense, is a pretty dickish move on any man's part.
Not all crazy can be spotted in an evening. Thus you can't hope to avoid all crazies if you engage in hook-ups.
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saying it, but failing to demonstrate it as anything other than an opinion... a very disturbing opinion.It still comes across as quite a few on this board would rather risk raping someone than risk not having sex.
Which is rather disturbing.
It's too much effort to have a conversation with a potential sexual partner?
I don't see anyone saying that. What some of us are saying is that the proposed rules are incompatible with how sex actually works.
Have you ever had a partner ask every step of the way? What steps did they ask at?
Except for my very first time and the two times men tried to rape me, no sexual partner has ever failed to make sure they had my enthusiastic ongoing consent. How much detail would you like?
The question was *ASKING* each step of the way.
That's a much higher burden than simply being aware that one's partner is enthusiastic about what's happening.