Um, its she that brought up "female exeption". I don't even know what she thinks that means. She hasn't explained her logic other than to blurt this out.
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Um, its she that brought up "female exeption". I don't even know what she thinks that means. She hasn't explained her logic other than to blurt this out.
I'm sorry that you are having difficulty following the conversation.
Maybe in your head. Not in reality. Do you not think that women ever take up space with their bags, coats and purses, not making space for men to sit down? Do you think men do this oh so much more often than women do? Have you ever ridden on a bus?
Even if men did do this considerably more often than women, do you think it appropriate to label the action with their gender? Should we do that with other behaviours engaged in more by other genders or races?
ruby sparks said:It's arguably not the best term, I'll give you that.
Talking over somebody is rude. It isn't usually gender based.
^ Not a single one of those men appears to be taking up space somebody else wants to sit in. Three and maybe four (can't tell on that last one) of the women are taking up equivalent space on the bench with their bags. All of the men have their bags on the ground so not to take up space. Spreading your legs as those men are is called comfort. Men have balls. This is biology, not rudeness or aggression or dominance. Also, those photos look old, probably from an era wherein men were told to get up and offer a woman your seat to be gentlemanly.
^ Not a single one of those men appears to be taking up space somebody else wants to sit in. Three and maybe four (can't tell on that last one) of the women are taking up equivalent space on the bench with their bags. All of the men have their bags on the ground so not to take up space. Spreading your legs as those men are is called comfort. Men have balls. This is biology, not rudeness or aggression or dominance. Also, those photos look old, probably from an era wherein men were told to get up and offer a woman your seat to be gentlemanly.
It was a study done in 1979, including over 5000 photographs. The biological explanation does not explain everything about it, although it is a part of it (including that it makes a man more likely to be selected by a female as a mate or date, according to studies done). No, the men in the photo are not taking up anyone else's space. The study was not about that. It was only about the way men and women (at least in 1979) tended to sit (or stand or use their body parts). It was in part highlighting the component of body language that is about typical/traditional gender roles. Which is/was only a component. Now, things have changed since 1979, to quite an extent, but there are still ways in which many people still behave in the ways they did then.
So what's your point? I've never heard anyone reference "manspreading" as merely how men sit and not as some powerplay or rudeness or affront towards women. Have you? Have you ever heard it as a compliment or neutral statement about his sitting? I haven't. If anyone was using it that way, it was pretty obscure. It came into public consciousness with the nutty "feminists" complaining about it, which is what I was talking about when I brought it up. If done without taking up any space anyone else wants, is there anything whatsoever wrong with men sitting like this? What's next? Chastising and browbeating men for not wearing mascara, calling it sexist and an attack on women?
Are we really to take this stuff seriously when there are women being actually oppressed in this world?
I haven't heard it described in non-pejorative terms as manspreading but I have read of the general behaviour being described, discussed and explained in a variety of ways. For example, as I said, that it attracts mates.
Also, personally I have no problem whatsoever in accepting that there is at least a component of it (in the general sense) which has to do with traditional gender norms and expectations.
I haven't heard it described in non-pejorative terms as manspreading but I have read of the general behaviour being described, discussed and explained in a variety of ways. For example, as I said, that it attracts mates.
Also, personally I have no problem whatsoever in accepting that there is at least a component of it (in the general sense) which has to do with traditional gender norms and expectations.
Sure, but so what? Is that what you think "Feminists" are complaining about? No. They are claiming that this is rude or aggressive or otherwise negative behaviour by men and that they are victims of it somehow. And that's ridiculous.
It is indeed rude to do if you take up seats others would like to sit in, but that goes equally for women who put their purses or bags or whatever on the seats next to them, which is at least as common if not more common. Such inconsiderate behaviour isn't gendered, and gendering it by calling it "manspreading" and browbeating men with that is sexist and also ridiculous.
I haven't heard it described in non-pejorative terms as manspreading but I have read of the general behaviour being described, discussed and explained in a variety of ways. For example, as I said, that it attracts mates.
Also, personally I have no problem whatsoever in accepting that there is at least a component of it (in the general sense) which has to do with traditional gender norms and expectations.
Sure, but so what? Is that what you think "Feminists" are complaining about? No. They are claiming that this is rude or aggressive or otherwise negative behaviour by men and that they are victims of it somehow. And that's ridiculous.
It is indeed rude to do if you take up seats others would like to sit in, but that goes equally for women who put their purses or bags or whatever on the seats next to them, which is at least as common if not more common, and noticeable in the photos you presented. Such inconsiderate behaviour isn't gendered, and gendering it by calling it "manspreading" and browbeating men with that is sexist and also ridiculous.
I don't base my response to something depending on whether or not a feminist made the point. Do you?
First, I doubt you have checked whether women taking up excess space at the expense of another adjacent passenger is either as common or more common. Second, when it does happen, it may be for different reasons.
Some women do indeed place their purses on the seats next to them in order to discourage other (usually male) passengers from seating there. However, I have yet to see a woman not quickly and politely move her purse for another passenger when someone wanted to sit in that space. I can well imagine that someone might not move their purse or be very slow to do so if they were uncomfortable with the individual who wanted to sit right next to them. I haven't seen it happen but I'm sure that it does. I've observed men placing magazines or newspapers or their briefcases or coats and other belongings on the seats next to them as well. I am relatively certain this is both because it's more comfortable and also, to 'claim' the space next to them as women sometimes do. Individuals are willing and quick (or not) to move their belongings to varying degrees, according to the individual and the circumstances.
I've seen all manner of people store their back packs, briefcases, and other luggage on the floor, often so that it encroaches on the floorspace/pathway of other passengers. Usually, I think this is simply being a bit inconsiderate. People are willing to adjust their belongings to varying degrees, according to the individual.
She used the Founding Fathers as an example of people with flaws who still did good things. It is obvious that she is applying thst to all people. Your posts in this thread make it clear you don’t know what she or most other posters mean,When Toni brought thst up she used the Founding Fathers. Which means this female exception is yet another straw man of yours.I keep forgetting the female exception.
Um, its she that brought up "female exeption". I don't even know what she thinks that means. She hasn't explained her logic other than to blurt this out.
Some women do indeed place their purses on the seats next to them in order to discourage other (usually male) passengers from seating there. However, I have yet to see a woman not quickly and politely move her purse for another passenger when someone wanted to sit in that space. I can well imagine that someone might not move their purse or be very slow to do so if they were uncomfortable with the individual who wanted to sit right next to them. I haven't seen it happen but I'm sure that it does. I've observed men placing magazines or newspapers or their briefcases or coats and other belongings on the seats next to them as well. I am relatively certain this is both because it's more comfortable and also, to 'claim' the space next to them as women sometimes do. Individuals are willing and quick (or not) to move their belongings to varying degrees, according to the individual and the circumstances.
I've seen all manner of people store their back packs, briefcases, and other luggage on the floor, often so that it encroaches on the floorspace/pathway of other passengers. Usually, I think this is simply being a bit inconsiderate. People are willing to adjust their belongings to varying degrees, according to the individual.
Exactly. There is zero reason to gender it (or to racialize it). As you said, all manner of people do it.
None of the photos that I've noticed in this thread adequately depict what I mean when I think of manspreading. What I think of is when men very widely and very deliberately spread their legs very wide apart taking up as much space as possible and frankly putting their genital region on display (through their garments, of course). It is immediately recognized as an attempt at displaying dominance. I mentioned earlier that one male co-worker has done this (none of the other men do this) and it was noticed and remarked upon by every woman in our work unit--privately, not confrontationaly. With many eyerolls as he is 'that guy' in so many ways.
None of the photos that I've noticed in this thread adequately depict what I mean when I think of manspreading. What I think of is when men very widely and very deliberately spread their legs very wide apart taking up as much space as possible and frankly putting their genital region on display (through their garments, of course). It is immediately recognized as an attempt at displaying dominance. I mentioned earlier that one male co-worker has done this (none of the other men do this) and it was noticed and remarked upon by every woman in our work unit--privately, not confrontationaly. With many eyerolls as he is 'that guy' in so many ways.
So you've seen one guy doing this and you presume he did it to feel dominant (or did anyone ask him?). Ok. So, is that any reason to associate his entire gender with it and call it "manspreading"?
I don't see the point of the whole glove bit anyway. However, what he said is that he's seen places with only S & M. Not that those are the only sizes in use.
I have seen multiple people on here asking for things like subsidized childcare.
I think the glove thing was weird too, but whatever. His implication was that this was an indication of how much women are favored. It's actually an indication of what size glove people in that work area need and prefer.
Yes, affordable childcare is a really important part of modern society. Many people recognize that. Child care generally is much more expensive for infants and gets less expensive as the children get older. For infants, it can be cost prohibitive, even for well to do young families. This is one reason that it is actually less expensive for society to have much better and much longer parental leaves. It reduces child care costs and stress from the employees, making them more productive when they return to work. Children thrive best when raised by parents who are not stressed by an excess of extraneous stresses and time pressures--and financial pressures. Children who thrive in their earliest years on average are less expensive to educate as they need fewer special interventions.
Plus, I think it is the right thing for society to do: to build and run society so that the very smallest and those in most need due to health, age, whatever, are able to have their needs adequately met. So, yes, we need to make workplaces much more flexible to enable people to care for children, for ill and injured loved ones and for aging family members.