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Why I am a member here even though I am a Christian

No, I'm not being ironical at all. When you realize that your thinking is in the small minority, it is easy to question whether it is valid. Having references to gods and other supernatural forces constantly surrounding you, and very often coming from people who you consider to be good, smart people, can easily make it seem like the conclusions you've come to might be lacking. Maybe I'm missing something that everybody else is seeing? What could that be? Is my thinking wrong? Could all those millions and millions of people in the world who believe in a god simply be wrong? What happens when I die if I'm wrong? I'm actually scared of living in a world where the supernatural exists. I am much more comforted by atheism than theism. But, it is easy to have the emotional side of you pull at your intellectual side and you have to keep rethinking what it is that makes you not believe. Remember, as much as we might claim that "atheism is the default position", the point is that most people aren't atheists, so by becoming an atheist you really are going against 'mainstream' thought and really have to defend it, even though you aren't making a claim that logically needs defending.

You know, this single post has caused me to think more about how I reply than any other post in this thread. I really don't know what to say to you. Should I just say I am sorry you feel such pressure and anxiety? Should I tell you to keep searching for something to give you comfort? I am really at a loss here.

But I do understand how it feels to be an outsider in the real world. There have been many occasions where I felt like I was the only person in a group who held a particular belief. I choose to think that this strengthens my character and refuse to let other people determine my worldview simply because there were more of "them" than there is of "me". Might does not make right, in my opinion.

Thank you. Your honesty refreshes me.

Ruth
 
I have to say I am very surprised at the number of people who have participated in this thread. I thought there might be some interest but I am blown away by how much has been written here; I figured this would die out last night. I appreciate all of the good discussion that has happened.

I am not trying to sneak away. I just thought you should know that my workload has gotten heavy and my time for this forum is limited so you probably won't get rapid responses like I was able to do yesterday. I will make an effort to answer any questions at least once a day.

Thanks for letting me participate in this forum.

Ruth
 
(Mods - this thread is not intended to proselytize. I am writing this only to clarify questions I have seen in other threads and a complete explanation involves some statement of my beliefs. I do hope this does not violate forum rules and will not be offended if you question me about some of the statements or need to edit something, but I do think it will make my post less explanatory if you do)

I know that many of you question why someone would join this forum if they are really Christian. Here is my explanation in Q&A format. Feel free to ask questions; I will answer honestly as my time permits.

Are you a Christian? Yes. So how do you prove Christianity is logical and the correct way? I can't – and have no intention of trying. If you are wanting a logic based, step by step reasoning of the truth of Christianity then I recommend you read “The Case for Christ” by Lee Strobel or “Cold-Case Christianity” by J. Warner Wallace.

So why won't you try to convince everyone here that you are right and they are wrong? Two reasons: first, I am not trained in apologetics, and second that is not what God says is my responsibility. All I am asked to do is proclaim the gospel – so here it is: All people have sinned and lost their eligibility to enter heaven when they die. God is perfect but loves us and wants us to live with him. Christ died on the cross to pay for those sins, and was resurrected to provide everlasting life for those who accept the free gift of salvation in Him through faith. That's it; everything else is window dressing. If you want to know more, there are tons of online resources including bibles, study guides and books. Be wary of those who claim to have the only valid interpretation.

Do you really believe this? Yes. Don't you have doubts? Of course I have doubts! I am not perfect and never will be. I have had many “dark nights of the soul” where I thought that I must be nuts to think that God would ever care about someone like me. But they passed and I am still a believer.

Wait a minute. Aren't you going to tell us that we are hopelessly lost unless we accept everything you say and join the right church? Not a chance, bub. I gave you the entire gospel message above. Churches are filled with people who are sinners just like you and me and they can't do a thing to make you to be saved without your willing acceptance of the gospel message. I have been in a lot of churches where it felt like they were actively hindering the spread of the gospel with their fixation on “rightly dividing the word of God” which is church speak for “Either you believe my way or you are going to Hell!”

Okay, so you are not a fundamentalist with the emphasis on “mental” like so many that descend on us here? Actually, I do consider myself a fundamentalist (but not the “mental” kind!). I believe in the fundamentals of faith – which is the gospel message and nothing more. As for those who come here determined to prove that they can save even an atheist I pity both them and you. They can basically be categorized in one of two ways. There are the ones who are convinced it is their sworn obligation to spread their interpretation of Christianity to everyone and “God will bless” by bringing those who hear it to salvation. Once they figure out that they will be challenged on their reasoning they slink away quietly to nurse their wounds and try again another time and place. The second group is less sympathetic; they come swooping in and make large amounts of noise about their wisdom in biblical interpretation and EVERYONE SHOULD BELIEVE THEM (sorry, couldn't resist mimicking their attitude). The difference with these people is that when their interpretation is challenged they stalk off in high dudgeon stating that they are “turning you over to a reprobate mind” (once again church speak for believe my way or.... well, you know the rest).

My attitude, and that of the other Christians I have seen stay around here, is completely different. I believe that the best way to represent my faith is as stated in Galatians 5:22-23 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” And as for thumping others over the head with the Bible and my interpretation, not gonna happen. I can explain this best with another Bible quotation from Luke 18:13 “But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner.’ “ That is me – a sinner. I am no better or more intelligent than you so I am not going to pretend I have all the answers.

So why are you REALLY here? Simple. I like reading conversations between intelligent well informed people, and there are a lot of them here. Of course you have those who can be considered atheist “fundamentalists” with the same attitude as the Christian ones but they are a minority and there are a lot of seriously smart and congenial people here that I can enjoy reading.

Fire when ready :cower:

Ruth

Why do you think any of us would have a problem with Christians?

Two name-changes ago, this forum had a lot more members and we had a ton of Christian posters. In fact you're far from the only Christian here even now with the reduced posting rate.

Regarding faith in general:

Faith is a bad path to the truth, but the worst thing about faith is that it dispels doubt. Without doubt, how can you have questions? Without questions, how can you have meaning?

Doubts should be cherished, but theists treat doubt as if it's something to be feared, and that's a big part of why I feel sorry for you. Faith sounds cold, empty, and meaningless to me. I don't understand how people can live that way.
 
I'm leaving this thread.
Apparently Christians talking about the Crucifixion is off topic.

The Crucifixion is the only reason I'm here.
 
Hi Ruth,

Snowing like blazes outside. Just got home. I'm sure to have some questions when I can read through the thread. Four pages in 12 hours?! Impressive! Give a man an audience...

After a read through I'll tell you I am a scientific naturalist, which for me means stars and planets don't stand still and then start moving again. Too Velikovskian.

The Sun does "stand still," however, for three days at the winter solstice after which it begins it's return journey. Of course it keeps moving the whole time and the ancients didn't know we were on a planet, tilted, spinning, rotating around an ordinary star like billions of others, etc. So we can cut them some slack for doing their best.

As to your Christian lean, I do the same thing, just leave religion and gods and demigods and impossible stories about visiting spacemen out of it. To me a god is like the trillion dollars I have in my basement. Everything I possess down to the penny on my dresser came from my having that trillion dollars. It's all visible, tangible proof that it's there. So why not believe in my trillion dollars?

Hi joedad! You can keep your snow up there; I don't want it ;)

I understand your feelings about Velikovsky as I had some of the same immediate instincts reading his theories. But there is still the fact that this event was noted in multiple cultures, so there has to be something there.

As for your trillion dollars, who am I to argue with you? If you want to believe you have it then just go right ahead. But the results/effect you are offering is not proof that you have a trillion dollars; only the physical existence of the currency/coinage/bits in a bank's computer are proof of its reality. And I am assuming that you cannot offer that proof any more than I can offer proof that God exists. So each of us must be content with our own beliefs without physical proof of existence.

Ruth
Not to put too too fine a point on it but in the end you ain't got no god and I ain't got no trillion. What we both got are stories we like to tell, yours a story you heard about a god and me a story I made up about a trillion bucks. It's when we literalize those stories that we put our mental illness on parade.

I work with this pastor. We're like twins separated at birth except he thinks he has a god.

It's nice to have you around.
 
I have to say I am very surprised at the number of people who have participated in this thread. I thought there might be some interest but I am blown away by how much has been written here; I figured this would die out last night. I appreciate all of the good discussion that has happened.

I am not trying to sneak away. I just thought you should know that my workload has gotten heavy and my time for this forum is limited so you probably won't get rapid responses like I was able to do yesterday. I will make an effort to answer any questions at least once a day.

Thanks for letting me participate in this forum.

Ruth

Well I use this site to escape from work at the office. Every post I do is a post which I didn't really have time to do
 
Why do you think any of us would have a problem with Christians?

Two name-changes ago, this forum had a lot more members and we had a ton of Christian posters. In fact you're far from the only Christian here even now with the reduced posting rate.

Regarding faith in general:

Faith is a bad path to the truth, but the worst thing about faith is that it dispels doubt. Without doubt, how can you have questions? Without questions, how can you have meaning?

Doubts should be cherished, but theists treat doubt as if it's something to be feared, and that's a big part of why I feel sorry for you. Faith sounds cold, empty, and meaningless to me. I don't understand how people can live that way.

If you re-read what I wrote, you will see that I didn't say forum members had a problem with Christians. I was just addressing the fact that I had seen questions on why Christians would even want to be here. There are, of course, exceptions to every rule and atheists have their own group of adherents who are intolerant of anyone who does not believe as they do just like you will find in a group of Christians.

I remember the old forums. I was a member then. And yes I am aware that I am not the sole Christian here :)

Not at all sure why you think doubt is necessary for questions and/or meaning in life. I question things constantly - and this is due to curiosity, not doubt. Doubt can be a very depressing thing if continual whereas curiosity allows freedom of thought. I don't fear doubt - but I don't want to have to suffer it eternally either as it adds nothing to my life.

Ruth
 
Not to put too too fine a point on it but in the end you ain't got no god and I ain't got no trillion. What we both got are stories we like to tell, yours a story you heard about a god and me a story I made up about a trillion bucks. It's when we literalize those stories that we put our mental illness on parade.

I work with this pastor. We're like twins separated at birth except he thinks he has a god.

It's nice to have you around.

Thanks! I do enjoy being here. And I am sure if you can work closely with a pastor without becoming homicidal I will pose no problem for you :D

That brought something to mind. You should have seen the looks on the faces of members of my church when I told them several years ago that I was a member of a forum called Internet Infidels which was established by and geared toward atheists. You would have thought that I had stripped naked in front of them from the looks of horror I got. It still brings a smile to my face every time I think about it.

Ruth
 
Why do you think any of us would have a problem with Christians?

Two name-changes ago, this forum had a lot more members and we had a ton of Christian posters. In fact you're far from the only Christian here even now with the reduced posting rate.

Regarding faith in general:

Faith is a bad path to the truth, but the worst thing about faith is that it dispels doubt. Without doubt, how can you have questions? Without questions, how can you have meaning?

Doubts should be cherished, but theists treat doubt as if it's something to be feared, and that's a big part of why I feel sorry for you. Faith sounds cold, empty, and meaningless to me. I don't understand how people can live that way.

If you re-read what I wrote, you will see that I didn't say forum members had a problem with Christians. I was just addressing the fact that I had seen questions on why Christians would even want to be here. There are, of course, exceptions to every rule and atheists have their own group of adherents who are intolerant of anyone who does not believe as they do just like you will find in a group of Christians.

I remember the old forums. I was a member then. And yes I am aware that I am not the sole Christian here :)

Not at all sure why you think doubt is necessary for questions and/or meaning in life. I question things constantly - and this is due to curiosity, not doubt. Doubt can be a very depressing thing if continual whereas curiosity allows freedom of thought. I don't fear doubt - but I don't want to have to suffer it eternally either as it adds nothing to my life.

Ruth

I keep feeling that many 'Christians' seem to be missing the point. Jesus, like everyone in his time, thought in terms of gods, or A God, and expressed his ideas (basically, socialism) in those terms, his ideas thereafter being developed by others into yet another religion which largely ignored everything he recommended. What everyone here seems always to be discussing is the somewhat unlikely notion that justifies 'religious' doings and has nothing whatever to do with Christianity. I feel quite happy here, apart from a certain sense of deja-vu from my Eighteenth and Nineteenth Century reading.
 
Not at all sure why you think doubt is necessary for questions and/or meaning in life. I question things constantly - and this is due to curiosity, not doubt. Doubt can be a very depressing thing if continual whereas curiosity allows freedom of thought. I don't fear doubt - but I don't want to have to suffer it eternally either as it adds nothing to my life.

Questioning things and doubt is the same thing. What do you think is the difference between the words?
 
Non-atheists experience doubt as an emotion, not as a logical response.
 
Non-atheists experience doubt as an emotion, not as a logical response.

You would, too, if it had been drilled into you that doubt is a mortal sin. Repeat the pattern of associating certain thoughts with promises of punishment and voila, a good little obedience machine is born and will continue to be so as long as going the the flow is less painful than asking questions. Activate someone's sense of self preservation with all the accompanying reflexive physiology of fear, repeat the process continuously, and you will have someone who operates on a steady substrate of low-level anxiety and whose frontal lobes are starved in the process.

I'd be scared of doubt, too. In fact, I was, for years, mainly when I was little and too young to possess any defense against indoctrination. It's not a conscious thing. It can take years to overcome the cognitive damage this causes and our society does not foster the kind of thinking and courage it takes to even acknowledge that you have anything to overcome.

Thinking back, for me it really was a deeply felt experience over several rollercoaster years. For a while there, I remember my mouth defending the beliefs while my heart and brain were not feeling it. What I was feeling was cognitive dissonance butterflies in my stomach when faced with contradiction. This is why I am all for groups that support people in this process. Hindsight tells me I was an idiot for going it alone for so long.
 
Non-atheists experience doubt as an emotion, not as a logical response.

Do you thank that is genetic, or has the gene thing already been squashed? The genes they say are responsible for liking or hating spiritual things. Didn't they drill some heads and kill a few cats (just to be sure) to figure that one out? I don't hear much about it anymore. You'd think that could be a reason for what you just said.
 
Not at all sure why you think doubt is necessary for questions and/or meaning in life. I question things constantly - and this is due to curiosity, not doubt. Doubt can be a very depressing thing if continual whereas curiosity allows freedom of thought. I don't fear doubt - but I don't want to have to suffer it eternally either as it adds nothing to my life.

Questioning things and doubt is the same thing. What do you think is the difference between the words?

To me, doubt is a lack of certainty in something or someone and can include fear in many cases. Questioning things is saying to myself "Okay, what if this was the case?" It doesn't have to actually include the idea that I think something is wrong; it is just a way to explore differing circumstances or situations.

Ruth
 
Non-atheists experience doubt as an emotion, not as a logical response.

You would, too, if it had been drilled into you that doubt is a mortal sin. Repeat the pattern of associating certain thoughts with promises of punishment and voila, a good little obedience machine is born and will continue to be so as long as going the the flow is less painful than asking questions. Activate someone's sense of self preservation with all the accompanying reflexive physiology of fear, repeat the process continuously, and you will have someone who operates on a steady substrate of low-level anxiety and whose frontal lobes are starved in the process.

I'd be scared of doubt, too. In fact, I was, for years, mainly when I was little and too young to possess any defense against indoctrination. It's not a conscious thing. It can take years to overcome the cognitive damage this causes and our society does not foster the kind of thinking and courage it takes to even acknowledge that you have anything to overcome.

Thinking back, for me it really was a deeply felt experience over several rollercoaster years. For a while there, I remember my mouth defending the beliefs while my heart and brain were not feeling it. What I was feeling was cognitive dissonance butterflies in my stomach when faced with contradiction. This is why I am all for groups that support people in this process. Hindsight tells me I was an idiot for going it alone for so long.

Yep. I understand completely what you are saying in your first sentence. That is one of the ways that most organized religion and I part ways; I refuse to believe or accept that we are not allowed to question anything as it is sinful. We were created with the capability to think and that includes questioning why a particular dogma is considered to be accepted truth. One religious sects interpretation may or may not be valid - but it should always be open to questions.

Ruth
 
People examining the evidence and reaching a different conclusion than you isn't evidence of them not being skeptics. It's evidence of a disagreement.

Except when it's not.
 
Just do a little dance...

That brought something to mind. You should have seen the looks on the faces of members of my church when I told them several years ago that I was a member of a forum called Internet Infidels which was established by and geared toward atheists. You would have thought that I had stripped naked in front of them from the looks of horror I got. It still brings a smile to my face every time I think about it.
Hey, it worked for King David ;)
 
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