the theory that liking and hating work like complex numbers is what you think, not what she thinks.
And my point is that she is WRONG on that front, full stop.
"Full stop" you say. The problem is you didn't full stop. You kept going. If you'd stopped at "She is wrong" we'd be done.
Someone can hate AND like something. Someone can hate AND NOT like something. Someone can like something without hating it.
Because her model is wrong, her statement (specifically that this equated to me liking offering violence through some oblique ...) is wrong.
You don't get to say something wrong with a wrong model and then claim you didn't say what you said simply because your model is wrong. It doesn't work that way.
That's a begging-the-question fallacy. Her statement wasn't that "this equated to me liking offering violence", and you can't prove it was by repeatedly assuming it was as a premise and repeatedly taking a fragment of what she said out of context.
The model being bad means the math is bad. That's the point here.
That's a nutty position. You might as well accuse people who add speeds in the Newtonian way without relativistic corrections of making arithmetic errors.
I haven't tried to goad you
Well, you were working with Emily on the matter,
By "working with Emily" you are referring to my correcting you when you made false claims about her?
and maybe you didn't realize what she was trying to do, but I look not at what you were trying to do but what you did by picking up the intent, derived not merely from an assumption but by a clear pattern of behavior.
You are here quibbling over trying to defend Emily's rank ... ignorance on the subject.
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I haven't said a goddamn thing on the subject of whether her claims about how trauma works are correct. I'd be frankly out of my depth if I were to do so. Do I look like I have a degree in psychology? I'm defending Emily from the endless illogical claims you make about her. Logic is what I do have a degree in.
How hard is it to just say "Emily, you're wrong and by pushing on this wrongness you are being very unkind; reality is more complex than that"?
Who am I, her mom? I don't know if she's wrong; I do know you aren't kind to people you disagree with. And you think I should defend you? Not a mistake I'm likely to make again. The last time I defended you, you reported my post.
And don't <expletive deleted> pretend that you didn't make a post
"Pretend". Oh for the love of god. That the post isn't there to speak for itself is
your doing, not mine.
attempting to goad me on gender and pronouns
I wasn't trying to goad you; I'd have greatly preferred it if you'd overlooked the insubordination and just let me be me. I was attempting to comply with your desire not to have your gender specified without in the process saying a bunch of other stuff that isn't true and that you have no grounds to demand I say.
with <expletive deleted> games pulling in some other language just to not use plain and common English,
The words you're trying to drag kicking and screaming out of my mouth and resorting to social violence against me in pursuit of your imperialistic goal are not "plain and common English". They're Newspeak. English doesn't have words for the meaning I meant to convey so I pulled in a language that does. If I'd said the words you picked out for me as though I meant them, I'd have been lying. I will not lie for you.
or any of the other goads you have attempted to pull.
"Goads".
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What is it with you needing everything to be about you? It's not about you. You aren't the only one words have an effect on.
Once upon a time there was a little boy who was so intimidated by authority figures that he meekly stood up when they told him to stand up and bowed his head when they told him to bow his head and recited a pile of nonsense about a Father Who art in Heaven as though he meant it when they told him to recite. He gritted his teeth and lied for them because they were grownups and teachers and principals, and he was just a little kid who was afraid to draw unwelcome attention to himself by telling them the truth instead of what they wanted to hear. And when they let him sit down he sat down and felt ashamed of his cowardice and went on with the rest of the day's inseparable mixture of indoctrination and education. And when the boy became a man he may or may not have put away childish things but he never forgot that ashamed little boy.
If I were to say the words you demand as though I meant them, I'd be de facto saying the religion that demands them of me is right. I'd be saying it owns English; I'd be saying grammar rules are whatever the religion says they are; I'd be saying when its adherents insist that the rest of us turn off our brains' hardware accelerators for language production and do the operations in software, they are within their rights; I'd be saying its double-standards are proper; I'd be saying requiring me to pretend to agree with others' unscientific beliefs without requiring others to pretend to agree with any unscientific beliefs of mine is fair because they outrank me on the religion's stack; I'd be saying insubordination to it is a sin; I'd be saying others are gentry and I'm just a peasant. And those things I'd be saying
are that religion's doctrines.
If I were to say the words you demand of me, I'd be that scared and ashamed little boy again. I'm not him.
Threatening someone with physical violence isn't traumatizing to you, it's traumatizing to them
This is the specific statement that emilyade that is so dripping with ignorance it is scarce to be believed, linked back to a history of goads wherein she clearly disregards in entirety the trauma of certain situations.
You appear to still be addressing me, even though you're complaining about content of Emily's post I didn't defend. This is a topic you need to take up with her.
I shouldn't have to explain myself three goddamn times that ...
There are a fair number of things in her posts that she shouldn't have to explain to you three goddamn times, but here we are. You two think very differently. If you want each other to understand, you're going to have to go to some effort.
...you only chose to ignore someone "on your side" spouting some pretty ridiculous and ignorant ... and ignoring the details when I explained why trauma was involved.
"Ignore". Who am I, your referee?
You could have saved needing me to tell you the details by ...
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I didn't need you to tell me the details -- I'm not commenting on your trauma. Share what you feel like sharing.
Also, I'm going to note that a lot of what I take issue with from Emily is subtextual, and I'm not fluent enough in translating subtext to explain how she is managing to say half [what] I respond to. Toni may be better at translating it out, but to be fair, people only very rarely directly address subtext-as-text and doing so is intended to be difficult because the whole point of subtext is often plausible deniability.
Funny, you don't seem to take issue with subtext when it's the subtext of the words you try to bully others into saying.