If anyone should appreciate that beliefs are involuntary and that one cannot will what one believes, it ought to be you.Okay, so you have nothing. You can't point to a single thing I've written to demonstrate that I hate "independent women". It's an accusation you manufactured and declared without evidence.
The fact that you cannot will what you believe does not mean beliefs are inexplicable. I believe there's an oven in my kitchen, and I could explain why I believe it.
Emily may or may not believe I hate 'independent women', but she stated that I hated "independent women". I'll give her the benefit of the doubt that her statement was a true reflection of her belief. She believes I hate "independent women". Why does she believe it? It would be informative to me to see why people believe false things about me. I suspect it's because claiming you are not a feminist and that you are opposed to feminism triggers a false conflation in feminists that anti-feminist = anti-woman/woman-hater/misogynist. But I don't know Emily's mind.