Toni
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Those are not the only options available, even if there is not decent sex education in schools. Parents can talk to their kids, although the kids generally prefer that they not, even more than the parents prefer not. Most important parts of sex education are at home, with how people treat one another—how affection, love, respect and even anger. Then there is the whole biology parts.
This is something sorely lacking, and I believe it is rapidly becoming an intergenerational problem. Parents don't know what to say to their children, becuase precious little was ever taught to them either.
This is true. It's also true that kids are often...embarrassed and do not want to hear anything sex or birth control related from their parents.
Which brings us back full circle to the damage that the easy availability of porn is doing to current young people. The thread title specifies the harm that's being done to teenage girls and I agree, strongly. But I think it's also doing harm to boys who aren't getting the right information and messages that will help them become happy people capable of strong, fulfilling relationships. If 12 or 14 year old boys think that random girls are supposed to blow them (this starts in middle school, btw) and that girls like being overpowered, that consent isn't an issue, that they are supposed to knock girls around during or to get sex, that it's great for guys to pile up on a girl, that they are 'supposed' to get whatever sex act they think of on demand, it seems as though boys are being cheated out of the opportunity to have a loving and fulfilling relationship that includes sex with girls.
The subject of the OP isn't new, btw. Even Law and Order did some episodes about it.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5724765/
https://www.wbur.org/npr/472211301/...ance-of-talking-to-young-women-about-pleasure
https://qz.com/674336/the-revolutionary-idea-that-sex-should-feel-good-for-teen-girls-too/
When both boys and girls expect girls to endure physical pain for their partners’ benefit, it’s clear that we need to change the way we talk about sex—starting with the idea that it’s supposed to feel good for everyone involved.
Girls & Sex makes a strong case for changing the way Americans approach sex education. “When kids go into puberty education classes, they learn that boys have erections and ejaculations and girls have periods and unwanted pregnancies,” Orenstein tells Quartz. Many parents are equally guilty of this kind of framing, whether out of moral concern or simple embarrassment. “In the US, we emphasize danger and risk. The Dutch talk about responsibility and joy.”