A woman is telling men what things are like in the men's room.So Ruiz should have had no problem in the the men’s bathroom. Right?What about when he leaves the stall to wash his hands? Often its not hard to tell if someone is trans, though I admit that Ruiz is fairly masculine looking (in the face anyway).Doors on toilet stalls are pretty simple. Giving people privacy in a bathroom is pretty simple.And if there were a group of transphobic men who were in the men's room and determined that Ruiz was a trans man, they might have beat the shit out of him just for existing, and people would be saying that Ruiz should have used the women's restroom, where its safer.Yes! And to see how this result was totally predictable.I honestly don't think Toni was condoning violence. I think the point was to see each persons prospective as an ingredient for the disastrous outcome.
I feel terrible for everyone involved. Not as bad for the three men who could have merely asked what was going on —traumatic enough for Ruiz! Ruiz is the real victim here. I also have a lot of sympathy for the woman in the restroom. We have no idea what her past trauma includes. Speaking personally, if it had been me, I would have been concerned that this male looking person was looking to victimize young girls.
The woman and the three men were reacting out of instinct and also conditioning. Ruiz also responded with some anger. They were being very human.
All of this could have been prevented if Ruiz had been directed to use the toilet that matched his gender and appearance.
I think the only conclusion we can draw in all of this is that trans issues don't lend themselves to simple solutions.
Teaching people not to beat the shit out if other people is pretty simple but more difficult.
AFAIK, men do not typically have a strong negative reaction to finding women, even very feminine looking women, in the men’s room. Even if they do, few will feel so threatened to call for help or to physically attack them.
I mean, the statement that a few will feel threatened is a fare assessment. In fact, I'd wager that most of us would only complain if she was unattractive and belligerent. Crucify me.